Monthly Archives: July 2011

Warning … Love is here to stay

Always and forever. I’ll Always Love you. We’ve heard them all. If you’ve been to any wedding ceremony or listened to the radio at any time, we’ve all heard of the promise to love for life. That nothing will change and all love is eternal. Is this true? Is it good to count on it… Read More »

Kiss your Fear of Change Goodbye

In this wacky economy, there is a need for self reinvention. In the wild, living organisms adapt and change or die. So many of us refuse to listen to reason and refuse to alter what it is we’re doing simply because we can’t accept the fact that the pickle we have found ourselves in is… Read More »

Don’t read this unless you have the Courage to be Happy

In a country where eight year old children are medicated and the topic of most adult conversations centers around what’s wrong and the type of medication that is being taken as a result, I want to address the theory that to be happy requires an inordinate amount of courage. Often times people will say or… Read More »

Christmas has come early for some lucky boys and girls

The holidays are upon us once again. It is time for overeating, overspending, buying things we don’t want or need for people we don’t like. Why not spend this time doing something creative and productive for the younger members of our community. Why not give them the gift that can’t be charged, won’t make us… Read More »

Can Gay Men be Friends Part 2

I have had bad experiences trying to make fuck buddies into legitimate friends. Having witnessed several friends attempt and fail repeatedly at this endeavor, I am assuming either it doesn’t work or either my friends and I are a bunch of dopes. Gay men learn early on how to sexualize absolutely everything.

Can Gay Men be Friends ?

Growing up and coming out, I constantly heard very interesting messages regarding friendships between men and women. The message was loud and clear and annoying: they don’t work. I thought this was interesting and often wondered why people would make such assumptions. Then of course, I grew up and started dating men and to some… Read More »

Why reality can’t be trusted

In our world, there is much concern with reality. Reality, in so many situations is concerned with being negative. We can often times accept negativity, the belief that something awful will happen. For many of us, the awful, the dreadful, seems highly more likely. What if we have it completely wrong?

An Affair to Treasure

Potato salad flowed. Greens were served and fried chicken got piled high. I recently spent the most glorious evening with a wonderful group of gay men. If you have never spent a good chunk of your evening in the company of adult men you have not lived. I had forgotten the joy that comes from… Read More »