Monthly Archives: September 2011

Why HIV Infection Rates are Up for Young Black Males 3

When I was nineteen, a family friend who was also a doctor terrorized me. In addition to misdiagnosing me, I was made to feel ashamed, stupid and just plain bad about myself for being both attracted to men and acting on this attraction. To this day, I still hate and dread doctors. This was my… Read More »

Why HIV infection rates are up for young black males 2

In the brilliant film, Change, the protagonist is charming, sweet, young and conflicted. As a young, black male, he struggles with his sexual identification. The people who know and love him see gays as problematic. He doesn’t come out or share his feelings for other young men and the cost is brutal. This leads to… Read More »

Why HIV Infection Rates are Up For Young Black Males

The HIV infection rate for young black men who have sex with men is growing at an “alarming” rate. When I recently read this article, I was shocked and disturbed by the statistics. I was angry that not only was HIV still around and attacking our community , it now seems that it has a… Read More »

3 Secrets of better Monagamous Sex…The Final Chapter

Although the previously mentioned tips will dramatically improve your relationship and improve daily interactions with your sweetie,”putting his needs on par with your own ” is by far the best thing you could ever do. There is no way that two people can build a relationship of any depth and always agree on everything.

3 Secrets of better Monogamous Sex Part 2

Along with ritual comes a very different approach to interacting that will fundamentally change the way your relationship unfolds. The concept of appreciation is not new. In the Buddhism that I practice, most of the prayers mention appreciation in one form or another. This powerful but seemingly small technique allows us to keep the focus… Read More »

Confessions of a reluctant Activist

A while ago , I was hired at what I was lead to believe (and told repeatedly during the interview process) was a very progressive forward thinking and moving organization. Warning! If somebody has to keep telling and not showing their politics there is trouble afoot. After the initial hiring, I was left to flounder… Read More »