When I came out, it was black men and being with them emotionally and physically that gave me such hope and excitement regarding my future.
Many of us also lie about our greatness and flat out refuse to accept our gifts and the ways we can uniquely contribute to the world.
When growing up we are often encouraged to step away from greatness to not risk failure or community shaming by being too much.
By drawing attention to ourselves by being our naturally brilliant selves we are setting up a life filled with the big fat what if's of life and instead are told to opt for a life that is listless and uneventful.
For years, I held parental resentment because while my parents supported the Arts (going to great movies and quoting lines, listening to incredible artists on the radio and taking my sisters and I to great plays) I was constantly reminded that this world was not for me.
This was another lie that we all agreed on.
Although I was repeatedly reminded that this was not for me, I was constantly drawn to it.
During the course of middle school as well as high school and college, I was always involved with theater and the arts.
The truth always wins out.
I was and am a great and gifted artist.
What if we told our young people and those in our lives the truth about their talents and then encouraged them to consistently and effectively use them to stake a claim in the world ?
If we took a break from the lies that say "I/We " are not enough, what type of miracles could we create ?
My suspicion is that we are beyond frightened and confused regarding genius of any kind so we try and crush it early and often. This helps no one and leaves people angry, resentful and limits the capacity to which we can grow as individuals and as a community.
Why not tell children the truth : you have gifts and let's explore them and there will be haters let's talk about how to deal with that.
This is a far better way to communicate and gear folk up for dealing with life and how to manage it.
Know any young people you can tell the truth to ?