Category Archives: gay writing

How to Recreate Your Family and Guarantee a Sense of Belonging

When children are born, they are looking in the faces of all these strange people with one question in mind- Do I belong here? What we are seeking from birth onward is the question: Am I worthy of connection? As a culture, we refuse to see it and recognize it as normal, healthy and human.… Read More »

Shame, Shame ,Shame Everybody Knows Your Name

Many of my young charges struggle with some form of learning. While one may be brilliant and unstoppable with math and its application, the same person might have severe challenges with remembering to add punctuation at a sentence’s end. While another creates incredible artwork, there lies difficulties in manipulating numbers to construct a coherent plan… Read More »

What Fifty Years of Compassionate Impatience Can Get You

In this country, three factions can get away with telling the truth- mentally insane, small children and old folks. If you live long enough, you will get to spend some time in each category. Currently, I live and play behind door # 3. As I age, I find no reason to agree to bullshit I… Read More »

Burn the Manual Presents: Thriving in a Trump World- Stop Bitching Start a Revolution

We, at Burn the Manual, commit to taking action and out thinking systems that keep us broke, stupid, needy and victimized. Within our new governmental change, we are now either extremely fucked or on the verge of greatness. The Donald pimped and punked us all. Now what are we gonna do about it? My thinking… Read More »

Don’t Read This Unless You Plan on Living to Be 1,000

Almost ten years ago, I made a personal vow to myself. My vow was all about committing to a life of artistic merit. My decision was to give myself fifty years to “make it” in the arts. While my idea of having made it has changed considerably over the years, my desire to constantly create… Read More »

What Nobody Tells You About Aging: My Response to the Leisure Seeker

Sometimes, you get a visual of something and it won’t let you be. Two weeks ago, I watched a wonderful film, The Leisure Seeker that deals with long term commitment, memory loss and growing older. There are so many things that no one bothers to mention regarding the aging process. Hearing loss, vision battles and… Read More »

How My Steamy 45 Second Affair with Hugh Jackman Saved My Marriage

Admit it. Whenever you see Wolverine in all his muscled glory you go weak in the knees. Ya’ll remember that time when the adamantium transfer was complete and he leapt up from that tub buck naked and you lost your ever-loving mind. Don’t pretend you didn’t swoon when he woke up in 1974 rocking them… Read More »

Who Else Wants to Hire a 30 Year Old with 50 Years of Experience?

In the book, So Good They Can’t Ignore You, the writer shares a term (that I love) called Career Capital. This means there are folks who have put in their time, earned their stripes and learned “a thang or two about a thang or two”. When you hire an older guy like me or my… Read More »