Three Secrets to a Successful Relationship Part 3 (Learning)

Yesterday, my man beat me…Again. In Scrabble. The final portion of creating a successful relationship is the ability to learn from each other daily. Many couples meet and silently agree that neither will change no matter the amount of time spent together or the circumstances that would invite and encourage change. If you want the… Read More »

Three Secrets to a Successful Relationship

Many gay men wrongly assume that sexual attraction means relationship (material). What is not understood is how to create wonderful relationships. Often times those of us who have created something wonderful go underground. We make it difficult to provide tangible, visible proof of what two men who are in love the right way can create.… Read More »

How to Eliminate the Good/Bad Parent Hoax

Most of my young life, I dreamt of a large family with many children screaming, playfully terrorizing one another and basically providing loads of love and energy in a semi large contained space. There were only two problems : I am gay and I could not find another suitable individual who had done the emotional… Read More »

Why Homelessness Matters and What Can Be Done to Fix It

When you are homeless nothing else matters. When you don’t have solid footing, no matter your level of intelligence or education, everything is seen through the prism of: I don’t matter because I have no control or input regarding my most basic of necessities. I have been there: living in hotels with lunatic boyfriends, sleeping… Read More »

Three Ways To Be Courageous in 2016

Ten years ago, I wrote and performed a ballsy, brave, one man show:Knucklebones. My brave instructor, Gretchen Cryer, had given me permission to write about the scary dark places we all possess. Talking about male rape, addiction, abandonment, betrayal, teen homosexual longing for love, hurt and redemption, there was no way to unflinchingly explore and… Read More »

The Number 1 Reason Relationships Fail (And What to Do About It)

Most of us lie all the time. My friends and acquaintances who were brought up outside of the United States have a very different approach to love, relationships and friendships. It is their approach to communicating and commitment that I model when examining and making attempts to deepen and enrich my interactions with others. While… Read More »