How to Make a Sizzling Comeback

In a great TED talk recently a nerdy guy shared his spin on making a comeback. Apparently, at some point in our lives, most of us will not only need a comeback but will be nudged(gently or otherwise by life circumstances or the universe) into making one. When this happens, we have a couple of… Read More »

The High Cost of Being Right

Brene Brown in all fierce wisdom reminds us that men are socialized to not “appear weak”. This set up demands that men have all the answers all the time and be willing to share this knowledge with the world just to make sure that everyone in earshot knows the proper course of action. Many times… Read More »

When Middle Class Teachers Happen to Raised Poor Students

When those of us who identify as Middle Class are attempting to instruct those who aren’t, we are easily seduced by the knowledge that we have experiences and world understanding that they may never have. It becomes heady knowing that you are the one with the information that will change the lives of your young… Read More »

Men Refusing Domination

Everyday all around me and in multiple formats, the world reminds me that I’m flawed and not a “real man”. Men who Resist Domination are often seen as weak, pussies, someone to trifle with. We are often seen as less of a threat to the world. For not upholding toxic and typical masculinity, we pay… Read More »

We Gets No Love: Why Gay Men Struggle with Love and Intimacy

Right now I’m listening to Stevie Wonder’s Overjoyed and choosing insight over depression. Stevie Wonder always moves me to self reflection and deep emotions. I listened to him as a child go on about the life and world changing capabilities of loving and being well loved; I was given some very different messages from the… Read More »

Living in a World They Didn’t Make: How America’s Obsession with Violence is Murdering Our Children

When 9/11 occurred, we did nothing and learned nothing. When Columbine hit the news and parents could no longer see schools as a place of safety that was not riddled with bullets and the ensuing mayhem, we didn’t learn. When twenty of our most vulnerable were gunned down in Sandy Hook, we didn’t learn. Vegas,… Read More »

Refusing to Reenter the Closet (How to Support LGBTQ Educators)

No one ever talks about the vile and unrelenting homophobia that goes on in America’s classrooms. Teachers all over America deal with homophobia in very deliberate ways. Because gay and lesbian teachers can’t afford to be perceived as gay/queer, we ignore homophobia or pretend it is no big deal. So many educators who are gay/lesbian/trans… Read More »

Four Steps Middle Class Educators Can Take to Enhance the Learning of Poor Youth

After years of working with young people, children and adults who were or continue to be raised poor there are four essential questions that have always kept me in good stead and prevented me from being perceived as or feeling like the world’s biggest a##^&$%. When creating something remarkable, it would be wise to keep… Read More »