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11Sep/140

Why Black Men Live with the 9/11 Threat Daily

Thirteen years ago, I received a phone call and saw an image that changed the way I saw my country.

Thirteen years ago, I was heading to my old job that was located five blocks away from the Twin Towers.

While I understand the disbelief and the shear surrealism this event caused all Americans, I have trouble understanding a culture that fails to have the same depth of upset when it comes to our young black males.

We are in a similar situation (terrorism that may strike at any moment for any reason) when we look at the lives of Mike Brown, the residents of Ferguson and of course, Trayvon Martin.

Where is our shock and outrage in reference to these snuffed out lives?

It is always interesting to hear white friends and colleagues go on about not feeling safe (post 911).

I resist the urge to launch into a Richard Pryor rant about "now you know what it feels like being black in this country".

I have grown up knowing that I could be gunned down for any reason at any time.

Young black males have never been safe in this country. A black male who is brilliant, talented or gay is even more of a target.

What kind of world do we live in when we are only given the choice to mourn one sect of our population ?

Where are the telethons, star studded media events that say : This (murdering our young people) has to stop.

Where are the A-List celebrities offering large sums of money for legal fees, grief counseling and support of neighborhood watches ?

How many more have to be slaughtered before we take collective action and demand change ?

I mourned the senseless murders on 9/11.

I also mourned Trayvon, Mike Brown and Amadou Diallo.

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10Sep/140

How to Change Male Culture by Changing our Representation of Men

Whether its film, television or any form of mass media we all get the same messages about men:Men are emotionally lacking and one dimensional.

This thinking prevents any one committed to male growth and love the opportunity to support or further develop healthy relationships with anyone of the male gender.

We have been conditioned to believe that if we assign a group of characteristics to one segment of our population and then punish them when they dare to change the game everyone will feel better. No one will suffer.

If you are a boy who does not fit into a neatly and constraining view of masculinity then what?

I wrote about this topic years ago in a solo play.

Secret keeping is for boys who want manhood. Secrets are what many sons do…. So many sons are good sons. A good son does what he is told.
A good son gets married.
A good son spends holidays with his family.
A good son is violent. A good son likes to drink.
A good son watches sports.
A good son denies having problems
A good son doesn’t cry until he can’t speak.
A good son does not have addictions.
A good son is not in times square at three in the morning hoping for sex and a violent end to his misery.
A good son does not have sex with several men in one day.
A good son knows when to stop.
Now my version of a good son is my own
I will not lie.
I will not hide.
I will not suck it up.
I laugh uproariously.
I dance. All the time.
I am a good son. Some sons are hated not because of what they are but because of what they are not.

If you are a boy who protests the societal punishment for not holding up his end of the bargain what’s next?

There really is no place in this society for men who resist patriarchy’s call.

There is no place where men’s vulnerability is expected or celebrated.

As a young boy and now fully grown male, I have often caused a stir when I’ve admitted I was unsure about a fact, popular opinion or widely held belief.

The real crime has been when expressing a divergent viewpoint and not immediately having something to fill that void.

Sitting in the place of confusion, doubt and struggle upsets anyone who derives their power from the compliance with society’s rules about men.

I have experienced many lovers and a few male friends who become visibly and audibly upset when I voice confusion or an oppositional view point and have nothing(to shove into the void that I have now created).

Once (after suggesting that my partner stop interacting with an ex and inviting this person into our home and life) I was told that what I felt was ridiculous and that I needed to provide examples of why this had been or would be a problem.

When I deigned to leave my hometown of Detroit to move to NYC and live out my dream of being a successful performance artist, I was grilled on how I would do this with my favorite phrase : What was my plan?

When my answers didn’t suffice because not only did I not have a plan but nobody I’d known had purposely and unabashedly ever gone after a dream so powerfully, I was called a dreamer and told to wake up and get my head out of the clouds.

I was not holding up my end of and promise to be a man: I lacked answers and a concrete step by step plan that could be easily understood and explained.

Men in movies always have answers and a plan at the ready no matter who it affects or how. Men on television always have more wisdom than any one person can possibly obtain in several lifetimes.

It is time that we show men growing in knowledge and doing the slow, methodical work of becoming brilliant.

How about a group of scientists or social justice seekers who don't have all the answers and once they've admitted as much, move forward with a group plan gained by consensus.

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9Sep/140

13 Things Men Can Do to Transform the Culture of Male Violence

We can either continue watching our young men get murdered and wait for the next tragedy or we can commit and take some action.

It is time that we quit accomadating foolishness that masquarades as bravado and machismo and costs our community lives. It is time to transform our culture, our relationship to men and our collective support and fascination with male violence. It is time we take on Thirteen things that will transform our culture of male violence.

1.Listen to and love women. Women can support us all in growing, learning to truly listen and trust one another and provided that they have done a significant amount of healing, school us in the fine art of power sharing.

2. Seek professional help in dealing with any and all childhood trauma. So much of what we carry around and allow to go unresolved is emotional trauma from our youth. While many in our community don't view therapy as sexy or needed, it is time to change our relationship with mental health by addressing our most pressing emotional needs and begin demanding emotional well being.

3. Delve into a spiritual practice or create one of your own. When is the last time you've seen the inside of a church, mosque, temple? Anyplace that puts you in touch with the divine, the part of you that connects with the universe and allows love, vulnerability and a genuine concern for others will do.

4. Develop relationships with young children. Keep in mind that many people have been taught that men being around children and having love for these powerful little spirits is creepy and suspect. As someone who has taught four year olds and high school students and everyone in between, I am aware of people's misunderstanding around men's significance when it comes to being in a child's life. Our young ones need us to guide, protect and nurture them.

5. Redefine your personal worth on your own terms. Are you able to provide others with a gentle spirit? Do folks seek you out when they need clear insight regarding life struggles and personal integrity? Is your community better off because you're around? Make sure that everyone knows that things will work out splendidly for everyone if you are part of the solution.

6. Give up the belief that your only contribution is a physical one. Invest in brain teasing, synapse changing activities and interaction. Although I never win and suck at scrabble, I am mentally challenged and have never left a game not having learned something. Maybe chess or checkers would be more to your liking. Anything that moves our minds and gets them to stretch and move beyond what is comfortable and familiar is a great thing.

7. Seek out people who are willing to die for our young men if this is what it takes.

8. Stop lying about your feelings, accomplishments, disappointments, height, weight, penis size and sexual prowess. Tell the truth about your fears and how you handle them. Discuss your unrealized dreams and how you created new ones.

9. Develop friendships and relationships with people who are different and navigate the planet differently because of race, sexual orientation, religion or age.

10. Make the elders in your community show up and participate. Elders can provide great listening avenues for young people provided that everyone agrees to listen and not "fix". If a young person solicits advice, it is up to us to allow our young people to use their own inner resources and offer suggestions once they have either exhausted all resources or are barreling towards physical danger.

11. Understand the political process. Vote. Understand that politicians and those in power have much to gain when people are confused, angry and disorganized. It is a simple process to manipulate and unleash us on us when we are not clear where responsibility lies. Understanding the real deal behind elections, zoning laws and the pipeline to prisons that many of our schools have become will help us understand where true power lies and formulate a plan to redirect it.

12. Understand and know your history. Fannie Lou Hamer, King, Malcolm X, Ella Baker and Bayard Rustin all understood the power of organizing and motivating small pockets of people then moving on to larger ones. They also understood the power of momentum and they all created incredible changes without social media.

13. Follow the lead of the thirteen in Ferguson, Mo. Without an outside force deciding what needed to be done, these brave soldiers convened with the intent of doing something. Unlike many of us older folks, the started before they were ready and without much of a plan besides saving lives, gaining respect and mobilizing their community. Do we really need anymore than that? They are no longer willing to adopt a "wait and see" approach. They are clear that this approach doesn't provide much change and saves no lives.

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7Sep/140

Warning ! Black Men and Cops May Have the Same Definition of Power

Power and who gets to have and wield it often get a bad rap.

In our culture, we equate power with the ability to dominate, brutalize and incite fear. With this as our only definition is it any wonder that we allow the brutalization of our young men ?

To be male in this culture is to not be "weak".

What constitutes weak constantly changes and if you don't want to get lumped in that category you better know what it is from moment to moment and adjust accordingly.

It is time we redesigned the concept of power and what it can do to improve all of our lives.

All great movements that brought incredible, positive change did not use domination and violence in efforts to uplift and change the status quo.

It is now time for an examination of a new type of power.

It is time for a type of power that some have termed "soft power".

My soft power approach to leadership often makes people uncomfortable and doubt my abilities and commitment to instituting change.

What seems to really get folks in a snit is when I honestly and shamelessly admit that there is something I don't know or will need some additional thinking to create a productive solution.

Apparently, the worse thing can say beyond the ago of six is : I don't know.

American culture believes the loudest, best looking, flashiest is there to pay attention to, worship and fawn over.

Power and its distribution are often decided by people who have the most to gain by wielding it sparingly to those who need it the most and would use it most radically.

Gays, minorities, women, sexual outlaws are all groups who would benefit most from the redistribution of power and its significant and uplifting possibilities.

These same groups would also be wise to unlearn colonized ways of thinking and organizing.

When I have "dared" to write and speak about black male mental health, I have been interrogated by black men who insist that I share my "credentials" and then speak.

When I say : I'm black, gay, HIV negative, been dealing with intimate terrorists since I was 17, homophobic parents, racism, artist oppression and a world that hates direct questions and pure curiosity, this fails to suffice.

When I mention that older white men with Ph.D's are quoting me on their sites and journals without recognition, the assumption is that I must have something of value to offer the world.

Being questioned about my right to "speak" and share an opinion is all about the policing of my voice and power.

To combat this there must be honesty and discussions around who has power (ability to incite change and gather attention in large amounts).

Another tool to examine and collectively reassign power is the belief that we all have power and to wait for an outside force to grant us access to this power is doing a disservice to the world.

I recently launched a class to teach people about their true power(the ability to make choices) but disguised it as a class on surviving unemployment.

Everyone that I assembled for the class knew a great deal more than me.

I knew very little and was willing to learn as the class progressed.

This is how true power is shared with others and utilized to create serious social change regardless of the context and outside forces interfering.

Black men and Cops what are your definitions of power ?

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6Sep/140

How Black and White Folks Can Listen to Each Other even When We’re Afraid

In the brilliant and paridgm shifting masterpiece, Where We Stand, bell hooks takes on the subject of class in America and Americans refusal to discuss it.

Classism, bigorty and racism affect us all and lead us all to make some dumb ass assumptions and then commit to some even dumber behaviors.

When we view history in terms of the fights that took place to end racism and white supremacy in this country, we are encouraged to overlook the whites that placed their lives on the line.

When Black folks are seemingly angry and aggressive for "no apparent reason", we are instructed to simply chalk it up to being angry non thinking beast who need constant and forceful control.

We are systematically inducted to ignore the pain and emotional reality of the other.

I have denied the pain of white comrades and suggested that they walk it off and have no right to bitch about anything ever.

Folks have interpreted my anger in ways that were dismissive and demeaning.

If I can't or won't recognize your pain, I probably am not dealing with my own.

By keeping us blind to the ways that we inflict pain and cause psychological pain, racism and its offshoots go unchecked.

As I deny the pain or upsetting reality that an individual finds himself navigating, I am allowed the freedom to not self reflect nor take any responsibility in how I treat another person.

If we refuse to speak of certain things and steer others towards doing the same, we create an environment that is devoted to not speaking up when we should, things getting misheard and feelings getting hurt.

A better solution would be to discuss the pain and work together to develop kick butt strategies to usher in new ways of interacting.

This requires another item: Black and White folks trusting one another.

I have often feared whether I can trust the white person who calls himself my friend ?

If it gets ugly will you (white ally) go down with me or deny our association?

If there is a racist joke told in your presence will you speak up ?

Walk away ?

Tell the person to shut their gravy hole ?

If I hear an off color remark about a Jew, Italian, Irish person, will I speak up and out or mentally stat : It wasn't a black joke; the group that's a target runs the world so it doesn't really mean that much.

As a member of several subcultures, I get chances almost hourly to determine how I will deflect and respond to foolishness.

When I have tried to explain this battle to white friends, I am often met with blank stares regarding why certain things happen and how I should feel about them.

Mistrust and the inability to hear and share in another's pain makes it highly improbable that a real loving, compassion based relationship can or will be formed.

We spit in the face of domination and oppression by sharing our pain and learning to hear that of another.

We challenge and subvert our well honed culture of domination when we fight like hell to see one another as individuals and treat each interaction and exchange as unique.

We face our fear of being "tricked" and unseen by willingly going into battle and knowing that the shit might get ugly and real.

It is easier to stay mired in familiar and uncomfortable pain and relentless unmet desire for closeness.

To produce loving, trust-filled interactions with white friends and lovers, it is imperative that I pinpoint and eliminate trust issues that have nothing to do with the person in front of me and support the individual that I care for and about to do the same.

Mistrust and the refusal to listen are learned behaviors.

We all are born with the desire and need to find persons and create communities of ride and die peeps.

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5Sep/142

How Black Men Can Be Seen Without Being Punished

I often find myself telling friends and anyone who can hear that while I am often derided and or ridiculed for being weird, outspoken and too truthful, people often rely on my insight to assist them with inviting and managing change.

The one fear that consistently rears its head is that I will be rendered invisible.

As a young child, the misguided and miserable adults often vacillated between invisibility and ridicule and domination.

Many of us who get punished for truth telling and my favorite youth time activity (pointing out inconsistencies shared by adults), learn early that invisibility can both hurt and provide a place of safety and refuge.

Many of us bargain how much visibility is allowed based on where we are and the likelihood of being emotionally damaged.

Those of us who have been attacked because our insight and brilliant questioning minds bring attention have learned the consequences of visibility.

My family members and other unenlightened folks have spent many years reminding me that my "intelligence" will cause problems.

There has rarely been a focus on the world's inability to invite critical thought which invites change. Minorities and those on the "outside" are very aware that when you can be seen you can be hurt.

We often struggle with the possibilities that can be created.

We ask : Is it worth it ? What will my family say ? How will I survive ? Will this cause alienation from all that is familiar and communal ?

Those of us who have fought hard to be ourselves and spent any amount of relevant time developing inner resources (strategies of resistance) understand the consequences involved with fighting to be seen and hold onto ourselves at the same time.

It is time for all of us to change how and why we see black men.

Being afraid of being seen invites shame and at some point an outburst designed to eliminate shaming and create a space to be seen as human.

We often don't recognize this concoction until someone has been killed.

We wait and hope that things will work themselves out knowing that there must be something we can do and yet the thought of greater visibility which might make "me" the next victim silences our angst.

As a culture it is time that we encourage all of our citizens to be seen and then collectively wrestle with images that we don't understand, are threatened by or want to eliminate.

Only with honestly sharing our collective blindness will we then be able to disengage it.

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4Sep/140

Warning: We are All Trained to Accept Violence

Several years ago, I read an essay about the ways that we respond to violence.

It was pointed out that we typically will have one reaction if we are assaulted in the world by someone we don't know or have never seen.

We respond differently when it is someone we know intimately.

Many times during the day we have options to be courageous or silently agree to not cause problems.

No where is this more common and more prevalent than in our daily discussions and energy around race and racism.

I am highly disturbed about the way racism here in California goes unaddressed.

Living in California for six years now, I have had the opportunity to meet several people and a number of black folks who behave in some truly bizarre ways.

bell hooks has spoken of the "worship of whiteness" as a strategy for cultural assimilation.

Until moving to California, I can't say that I 'd ever seen this phenomenon in my day to day existence.

Moving from the east coast (NYC), I had become accustomed to and taken for granted that people of color (mainly black folks) were able and expected to take on positions of leadership.

My understanding of creating a platform based on one's thinking and then inviting others to join was granted (bestowed upon) to anyone brave and ballsy enough to claim it.

When I think of my initial introduction to straight shooting talk that NYC is famous for, I recall a conversation between myself and a friend that I still have today (19 years later).

My first friend that I made in NYC was an Italian who explained to me that looking for an apartment in a Greek section of Queens would be pointless because they don't rent to black people.

I accepted and felt no need to change this particular form of violence.

When your experience has been where black folks and gays have been the ones in power and dictating the course of action for large groups, it is strange to see people ask for permission to do things.

I have a friend who is Mexican American who plans to co-dominate the world with me at some point.

We are working on a film that is full of racial/sexual and economic stereotypes.

During one meeting, we discussed the stereotypes that people feel free to share when they are among their "own".

It is not uncommon for people to share racially charged thinking and humor when a person of the targeted group is not within earshot.

It is equally troubling when "jokes" and amusing "anecdotes" are served up with the punchline being someone's racial makeup or social condition and the target (of what is supposed to be funny) is in the room and a part of the conversation.

How do these poisons enter our personal space ? These things occur because we allow them.

These things occur because many of us lack the courage and conviction to speak up and out and demand that it stop.

It is difficult to say to anyone : This type of behavior is unacceptable in my presence and in particular in my home.

Home is a place to retreat to and then emerge from ready to battle anything that tries to prevent us from being healthy and whole.

You can't do this if your home is fed a steady diet of racist barbs passing as jokes.

When the crap looks as if it is even making an attempt at entering your home, you must remove the welcome mat that is silent complicity and replace it with a dollop of courage.

Dr. Maya Angelou reminds us that courage is acquired gradually.

She tells us that we build large bastions of courage by first cultivating and inviting in small amounts of it into our lives.

A small step there. A slight reprimand here.

People are taught that this (violence in all its intricate manifestations) is the way you behave and interact.

Things that are taught can be taught in new ways.

Brene Brown has instituted a "no name calling" policy in her home.

I now have one in my home.

All of my charges know that they will never hear myself or my husband call each other anything that is so vile it can never be taken back.

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3Sep/140

Why Cops and Black Men Choose Fear over Love

Twenty plus years ago Marianne Williamson's brilliant Return to Love rocked my world.

In this mind blowing book, she addressed the concept that everything we do in life moves us closer to fear or love.

Brene Brown states that culturally our daily questions consists of: Who are we supposed to be afraid of and whose to blame ?

We have assigned black men as the ones to be afraid of and yet no one will take responsibility(not blame) for creating this big bad that haunts and terrifies us all.

We jokingly point out the inability to catch cabs, the uncomfortability of sharing elevator space and the belief that we are all rappers, athletes or thugs.

What would happen if we trained cops and society to look at black men with love ?

What if cops publicly shared the real reasons for the unmitigated brutality they often direct towards black men.

What if police officers in mass shared that they are afraid.

Fearful that a wrong decision could end their lives or make them a scapegoat amongst peers, much of their behavior is hinged on being seen us unafraid, daring, willing to risk it all and not being perceived as weak.

I have a brilliant retired cop friend who now teaches workshops on fear, bigotry and ways to uproot its tentacles in our daily lives.

Sergeant Levy shares the belief that those who face the possibility of death on a daily basis often have one goal: ending the day alive in an effort to get home to his family.

When he shared this rational desire, it was clear to me that there was a great deal of work that could be completed here with all citizens.

Our work could center on our collective need to return to the ones we love.

Black men also seek to return to the hearts and physical space of those who love us.

We often choose fear (masked as bravado and aloofness) to avoid the pain that occurs as a result of frustration and failed, unrealized dreams.

It is easier to be upset than hurt.

We choose fear, rename it (anger) and limit our choices and ability to respond to social injustice with well thought out, rational and passionate action plans.

We hurt and silently die when we are either not seen or seen in limited and vile ways.

What if for one day we all gave up the concept that what we needed was more sentimentality (which is its own type of violence) and replaced it with the desire to understand and actually see and hear the black male voice.

Society is notorious for creating an us versus them dichotomy as a way to stay safe and unchallenged. We all feel better when our relationships are predictable and peopled with folks that look and think like us.

It is easy to declare love when you are never challenged.

We all fear change.

How we negotiate and respond to change is the most powerful and positive response when things and people begin shifting identities.

We must learn to welcome the new and not offer parental like punishments to anyone who has the balls to dig deep and demand more from themselves and the world.

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2Sep/140

The Great Good/Bad Black Male Hoax

When I hear the nonsense of racism regarding scary black men and then get immediately assured that I am not one of "them", I often wonder: When is my time coming ?

We have been hoodwinked into believing that some of us deserve life (educated, churchgoing, those on their way to college) while others (drug users, those grappling with mental health issues, low self esteem, and identify as gay/bi/questioning) do not.

Part of our socialization tells us this is cruel, not nice and certainly not true.

Those of us who consider ourselves "different" are slower to question the brutality that is targeted at those who look like us and in some instances make different life choices.

As I leave my home daily to go to work, I often assume that my tie and a smart pair of glasses will shield me from abuse and homicide.

Having worked with young people who many of us would term hoodrats, I understand that while our speech and dress may be opposite, those with badges who have not done the work of eliminating internalized racism may see us as identical.

Does this mean that I am never safe ?

Our culture loves the good/bad dichotomy and ways to quantify/box in and define.

When we are confused about where to place another, our racism instructs us to decide whether the individual in front of us is a good or bad man.

By supporting this flawed logic, we sign many death warrants.

We breathe a little easier when it is discovered that a slaughtered black man had a record, a history of drug use (no matter how benign or severe) or any type of police record.

As a community member, I am falsely seduced into thinking that a college degree and well read mind will escape bullets that take down men who at some point have been up to "no good".

I spoke of delusion in an earlier post and understand how comforting this state can be and what it can offer those who seek safety.

I am now challenging myself and those who have had the benefit of a middle class upbringing to examine the falsehood that is safety and the reality that no one ever asks to see a college diploma or a resume before they pull the trigger or strike a blow.

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1Sep/140

How to Stop Police Brutality and Save Black Men

Today, September 1, marks the beginning of a movement.

My movement is to stop the brutality of black men by police that continues to sweep this country on a daily basis.

Black folks and those who care about us should be aghast at our treatment.

Shock and disgust will not invite change.

Praying and hoping that folks change their hearts and in turn their behavior has not yielded much change.

The fascist state that should protect us from the bad guys sees nothing wrong with murdering and assaulting us and then using laws created by white supremacist cowards to ensure that their despicable behavior goes unchallenged.

This is a rallying call to those who value black male life.

Those who follow my musings understand my obsession and laser like focus on how to make black life work and thrive.

We live in a consumerist culture that teaches us that everything and everyone is dispensable.

With this as our guiding and cultural principle, snuffing out black men for any reason gets legitimized and supported no matter the consequences.

Black folks I am starting with us because we have been here before.

We have seen hordes of individuals gathering to destroy our community and what needs to happen to prevent that.

It is time to gather despite our collective fear and destroy the system that would destroy us.

Destroy, annihilate and rid ourselves of a jacked up system that is designed to eliminate a certain population.

I do not suggest compromising, reorganizing or working within a flawed framework.

That is the beginning of delusion.

In this battle for lives, the last thing any of us needs is more delusion.

Preachers, peace workers and those who focus on gratitude, are useful.

Teaching ongoing compassion will be the province of these individuals.

Their beliefs in the inherent goodness of others must be examined and applied once there are no longer any black males being gunned down, beaten, choked and harassed.

Until then, we are in a war that has been started and continues without proper explanation of the rules of engagement; nor is it designed for the people with the most to lose to ever become victorious.

In my personal life, I read a great deal about social movements, dictators (who bloodily run oppressive regimes) and brilliant, cunning guerrillas who determine that things will change.

Reading literature about sociopaths and those that bring them down is a reminder that humans are capable of everything.

Black folks it is time we stopped waiting for folks to treat us well.

We've been given every example that there are people who will not see us as human no matter what we do.

Black folks where is our outrage ?

Black folks let's not waste any more time or lives fighting over who should lead and how.

What is important is that we demand that things change.

What is important is that we no longer mistreat one another and demand that the world create a new approach when dealing with us.

While the movement is not new, it has smartly and wisely reinvented itself so that we have no clear understanding of what to do next nor who is most capable to carry out what our movement requires.

It is a time to take action and demand change and accountability.

When small animals are slaughtered or missing, there is a national outcry,crowd funding and all sorts of you tube sensations complete with a flood of activity on social media.

Where is all the concern and galvanizing when one of our own is gunned down ?

We can easily borrow strategies and action plans from those involved in other movements : Civil Rights, Women's Rights, Gay Right's , etc.

It is now time to handle this social problem like you would any malady (with swift and deliberate action).

We would not negotiate or attempt to reason with a sickness that attacked our bodies.

We are in the same position with the police brutality and the men in our community who are most directly affected by it. My suggestion is that we figure out what makes people pay attention and do just that.

My Aunt used to jokingly state that the bus boycotts worked because the bus company owners were losing money.She used to tell us that when folks ain't acting right that if you hit them in their pocketbook(s) they will act right.

Whose pocketbook do we need to hit in an effort to get people to pay attention ?

Starting at a financial point would be an initial way to address this issue.

We could also focus serious pressure on political leaders and a refusal to support institutions that watch the brutalization and do nothing.

We have to make it impossible to allow certain things to occur.

We have to make it impossible to continue with certain behaviors.

Any suggestions ?

True change always starts with a group of pissed off ordinary citizens that make things transform.

It is time that we get pissed off collectively and then do something with that being pissed off.

Where is our anger ?

Where is our confrontation of policy makers, self appointed leaders and those who take our money and votes and offer very little in return ?

Please forward me your upset, desire for change and then let's get started and change ourselves and then our communities.

Please send me suggestions as to how this can be not only turned around but also considered no longer socially acceptable.

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