Always and forever.
I’ll Always Love you.
We’ve heard them all. If you’ve been to any wedding ceremony or listened to the radio at any time, we’ve all heard of the promise to love for life. That nothing will change and all love is eternal. Is this true?
Is it good to count on it or hope for what seems damn near impossible? Does this desire for love’s eternity stifle our growth ? I would love to know that some things won’t change. I would love to know that the person I love would be exactly what they agreed to be from the start.
All arguments and disagreements stem from an arrangement that someone did not keep .
It could have been intentional or not; it could have been openly stated or not. Perhaps one or both parties kept things unclear to give themselves an out should things look a bit shaky.
Whatever the initial agreement, the end result is that somebody is pissed. Things can and do last. Things also do and can change. Usually people are ok if everything stays status quo.
However, as humans, we are not built for a status quo existence.
Problems and things changing can be an exceptional tool in bringing about incredible growth and human possibility. Love should and can last forever. It reshapes and demands more of us the closer we get to people.
This is why we write songs and listen passionately to the promise of love everlasting.
We want to believe that these feelings will never go away. They don’t go away. If nurtured properly and attentively, these feelings have the opportunity to grow deeper and hence the demand for more of our attention and several chances to fully engage another human being.
The forever referred to in these tunes is the forever very much akin to familial relationships.
Your parents are your parents forever. Your children are your children forever. We may not like it. The relationships might be fucked up, unhealthy and volatile and yet we are still related for life.
We move. Grow old. Die and watch children being born and yet our primary relationships remain.
So what do we do to endure that our romantic relationships thrive?
Do we not believe in the possibilities placed before us via pop music and hope filled movies and television shows? Do we assume all and everything is temporary?
We take a chance on love. We decide that these songs, these movies all of it has a place and that art often provides a framework within we can place our desires and then set about the joyous ways to make our fantasies and dreams real.
We can’t blame the people who write/create things that move us. We only have ourselves to blame if we fail to take the tools and build the life we want .