Three Secrets to a Successful Relationship

Many gay men wrongly assume that sexual attraction means relationship (material). What is not understood is how to create wonderful relationships. Often times those of us who have created something wonderful go underground. We make it difficult to provide tangible, visible proof of what two men who are in love the right way can create.… Read More »

How to Eliminate the Good/Bad Parent Hoax

Most of my young life, I dreamt of a large family with many children screaming, playfully terrorizing one another and basically providing loads of love and energy in a semi large contained space. There were only two problems : I am gay and I could not find another suitable individual who had done the emotional… Read More »

Three Ways To Be Courageous in 2016

Ten years ago, I wrote and performed a ballsy, brave, one man show:Knucklebones. My brave instructor, Gretchen Cryer, had given me permission to write about the scary dark places we all possess. Talking about male rape, addiction, abandonment, betrayal, teen homosexual longing for love, hurt and redemption, there was no way to unflinchingly explore and… Read More »

My Year of Living Dangerously by Taking Full Responsibility for Everything

Yesterday, I made a mistake at work and totally forgot to acquire an agreed upon resource for one of my wonderful students. Work relationships, like all relationships that you decide to invest in emotionally, give you the opportunity to address familial and chronic distresses and “not good enoughs”. We can decide to speak up or… Read More »