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The Ultimate Guide to Saving Black Men Using the Ways of the Amish Part 2

In the previous post, I pointed out that racism has invented itself as police brutality.

A radical redistribution of wealth would force a new way of thinking and behavior modification.

A movement needs all types of people doing all types of things.

Revolutionaries who need time to think, organize and upset the masses need funding for housing, food and life's basic necessities

All leaders need financial support to ensure that day jobs don't derail their first and most pressing commitment(fighting for change).

Reading about the earnings of Jay Z for the first six months of the year ($60 million dollars) has given me many ideas for social movements that could occur if a small portion of his fortune where redirected "Amish" style.

Here is my personal plan (Amish influenced) for a Spending Plan that would yield impressive results.

Using five percent of Jay Z's six month gross (three million dollars) would look like this:

Three lawyers earning $50,000 each for two years. This group would focus on ways to legislate change.
Total = $300,00

Purchasing buildings to provide free housing and critical thinking space for a group of 100 individuals who are already working for change. Twenty groups of five living communally and being able to create solutions without worrying about a job or paying rent along with free utilities and food. Detroit and cities struggling to attract residents could be examples of purchasing homes and using them for social change. Twenty homes at $30,000 each plus food and utilities ($5,000 a year for two years)
Total= $610,000

Coding, Spanish and Everyday Math courses and materials for our young people in an effort to understand and link our struggles with those who have fought and won similar battles. Teachers, materials and computer supplies including: six teachers being paid Fifty grand each, free housing and medical benefits with an option to renew their contracts every two years.
Total =$400,000

Round the Clock Mental Health Resources : I have no idea how would work and believe that $400,000 would cover the costs.
Total = $400,000

Opening a small bank that would provide interest free loans for any person involved in changing the community.
Total = $1.3 million dollars

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The Ultimate Guide to Saving Black Men Using the Ways of the Amish

Michael Jordan, Jay Z, Beyonce and a host of other black celebrities have blood on their hands.

Black multimillionaires have used the black community to make piles of money and yet when one of our young people is murdered they remain silent.

It is great to make money.

It is greater to speak up about something other than the latest product you want our youthful community members to consume.

Why are we not demanding that the attention these folks generate be used for something other than getting more attention?

Ghettos are full of young people and their parents lusting for items they can't afford created by people that don't care about them.

We can adopt an Amish way of handling our finances and boycott things that don't support us or uplift our young people.

In the great book, Money Secrets of the Amish, there are several strategies that this debt free and self governing community uses to maintain its power and commitment to clear thinking and communal growth.

What this group has mastered is the power to say no to things that don't matter and yes to things that do.

Why spend $300 on sneakers when my child does not have a safe place to play or the books he needs in his classrooms ?

Amish persons would save this small fortune and invest in something that would pay off in the future.

By delaying gratification, they are able to wield an incredible amount of power speaking the language that all Americans understand: money.

We can adopt the same belief system, change our thinking about money and design a system that demands the end to black men as targets.

Where is our collective refusal to be pimped ?

Where can we say no to bullshit that doesn't matter ?

Start with this quote from Money Secrets : The Amish say no to themselves on a regular basis. If they wore T-shirts with words no them, they could proudly wear "Don't Eat the Marshmallow" emblazoned over their thrifty hearts. They focus instead on the big picture, and the result is loads of unfrittered money in the bank. (p.45)

Once we understood the real influence we wield financially, we could direct it towards progressive thinkers and media outlets.

We could demand that the folks who get rich of us either turn the spotlight on issues that concern us or we will no longer support them by buying their records and clothing.

What could millions of dollars do to eliminate Black Male assassinations ?

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Why Visionaries and Truthtellers will Provide Tools For Changes in Our Community

I have personally witnessed changes (the election of a black President) that I thought would never happen in my lifetime.

While I often envision a different planet and ways that humans can interact, I am blown away when we make large and unprecedented leaps in our development as humans.

What this culture needs is Visionaries who can articulate where we can go and our endless possibilities. We need visionaries who are willing to tell the truth.

As a culture, we often dislike and attempt to silence visionaries and those of us who are committed to telling the truth.

I recently read a great article about a group of individuals who are determined to turn around my hometown of Detroit.

This progressive group has designed a project that will move the culture forward: a steady diet of artistic creation, affordable housing, and time to think/plan and dream.

While this is a great example of what can be done, will this be enough ?

It can be enough if we designate "changed thinking" as part of the new world order.

Artists, creatives and anyone who has made mental health a priority need time to not only create product for consumption, we also need to incorporate new thinking and challenge ourselves to fearlessly and deliberately let go of limited thinking.

Focusing on new changes must also include vigilance in not just allowing those "in charge" to make all of the changes.

Decisions can be forced on us that can have major effects good and bad on the community as well as in our personal lives.

We all need and should welcome change.

My devotion is to the power that comes from visionary thinking and truth telling.

We need both of these concepts and must be clear about the ways they confuse or liberate even those with the best of intentions.

I am never without visions /dreams/possibilities.

When you are full of dreams and a ton of possibilities, it is very easy to become overwhelmed and make the grand decision to do nothing.

To refuse to act.

Truth telling keeps our desires within reach by pointing out when we have allowed ourselves to be seductively distracted.

Truth telling reminds us that while we can accomplish many things, we don't have unlimited amounts of time to get things done.

Truth telling points out in rather crass terms: you will die at some point.

Truth telling is also a major component of building and maintaining high levels of self esteem.

We are told that we are too young for certain things and too old for other things.

When we dare to move beyond the cliche of speaking our truth to actually living it, we are often deemed crazy, selfish or my personal favorite : "all over the place".

Our cultural fascination with lies and limits is something we can all fight against by fighting "for" the possibilities generated by our brilliant minds and gigantic hearts.

We could start small and pointedly with our children by encouraging them to be honest with what they feel is possible and assisting them with going after it (whatever it is they want).

We could also assist our young ones by giving them honest assessments regarding what accomplishing certain dreams will require of them.

One of the greatest gifts we can give to young people and anyone in particular is the understanding that things can be accomplished when self assessment is exercised.

I am sure that this is the point of entry that I use in my relationships and when I have been granted the honor of teaching.

I always begin a new class with a focus on what we've created in our lives. I allow people to speak their improved lives into existence and lovingly guide them into telling the truth about what they've done to prevent or deny themselves their self created visions.

The 21st century and beyond is the universe of creativity.

This movement is all about combining what we "see" with what we "know".

It is the experience that also requires that we consistently move into greater spheres of truth and knowledge.

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What White Folks Can Do to End Brutality Against Black Men

Getting caught up on the week's most important stories left me with much confusion and head scratching. There was no mention of Mike Brown.

Dogs struck by cars and wandering mountain lions were deemed more important.

Shocking news is not new and for the liberal and concerned white folks who seek justice and an improved society, I offer three helpful tips.

Tip # 1 Stop thinking that animals and their treatment is on par with saving(human) lives and preventing (human) deaths.

While there was no coverage of Mike Brown(during this Friday night newscast), I witnessed several minutes devoted to raising funds for a dog struck by a car.

As if this wasn't enough, there was a group of young children and weepy adults moved to demand laws and space be created and designated for mountain lions who've had their natural habitats invaded and their homes disturbed.

I am currently waiting for the celebrity weigh in and concern for these "poor" animals.

Nature has its own system of dealing with sickness and death.

We should stay out of it.

A bigger concern would be how we treat one another and the laws and thinking that govern our behavior.

Tip 2: Stop waiting to speak up and take action.

Review the lives and powerful decisions made by the bold and brave whites who risked their lives during the Civil Rights Movement to bring about a change in all our lives.

Mistakes will get made. So what.

If I have to choose between a mistake and the death of a young person, I say bring on the errors.

Tip 3: Challenge the behavior of your friends who have meaningless lives to look beyond the obvious.

When a group is gathered and the discussion leads to:the new IPhone, which highway has the least amount of traffic or the market that has the best selection and pricing of produce interrupt that bullshit with some real talk about elected officials, where your tax dollars are being spent and the privileges you indulge daily that are part of the problem in our communities.

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Developing a Spiritual Practice as a Way to Change Men and the World

At a recent gathering, I heard a man say the following: We are concerned with what type of world we are leaving our children; We should also ask what type of children are we leaving for the world.

As a practicing Buddhist for over ten years, my belief system is simple, effective and always provides me with opportunities to grow and evolve.

There are not many institutions that allow individuals to constantly strive to better themselves and as a result, the world.

Twice a day, I set aside time to face my shit.

Most religions and spiritual practices encourage a great deal of conformity and very little self reflection that can, if we allow it, lead to some serious transformation.

I know of no one outside of my practice who is committed to self transformation to the extent that we(practitioners of my particular sect of Buddhism)pride ourselves on being.

It has always struck me as odd when people say they have no spiritual practice and believe in nothing but themselves.

One of the greatest aspects of a spiritual practice is that it allows humans to be with other humans.

We learn and grow from human interaction particularly if what we are doing is focusing on personal transformation that engenders global transformation.

While openly admitting to having a spiritual practice is often frowned upon, it is imperative that they exist and people look at all the ways they practice spirituality without labeling it as such.

Anybody who fights for human rights, ending violence in all its forms and eliminating domination and unfair treatment of others and oppression is doing spiritual work and has a commitment to a spiritual practice.

bell hooks refers to those who do the work of ending domination as doing the work of love.

Men who want to transform themselves would be wise to heed these words.

As men, we must not be afraid to humble ourselves to the parts of ourselves that cry out and demand serious, real connection, change and uplift.

The most powerful men I have met have a spiritual core and devotion to spirituality that is awe inspiring.

We can let go of domination and "king of the hill" shenanigans that mask fears of the other and an unwillingness to be vulnerable.

With spirituality there is a wonder (a not knowing) that most men are uncomfortable with and yet this is what is needed if men wish to allow the best, most loving and thoughtful part of themselves to prosper.

Men have been taught that to wonder and not know is dumb, weak, unforgivable and can only lead to trouble for all involved.

When man can retire the cape, get off the white horse and admit: I don't know; the world and themselves can change and true transformation can occur.

We should allow ourselves permission to "not know", to dwell in the spiritual.

This must be allowed without interference, judgement or punishment.

We can not demand that men evolve when the essential component of spirituality is missing.

Men who care for children, support the elderly by driving them to agreed upon destinations and who listen to women and anyone who might know more about a subject than they do are practicing a sacred spirituality.

Invite the men in your life to a temple, a mosque, Sunday service.

Remember no revolution or inner transformation can survive without a devotion to the spirit.

When I pointed out this reality, some folks didn't agree and doubted that the core of any revolution and social change was based in a devotion to spirit.

Any time there is a break away from commonly held beliefs regardless of their effectiveness or sincerity, you are asking for and ushering in a revolution.

We are asking men to change and show us their best selves which is revolutionary and can only be carried out when radical spirituality is at the center.

Men are smart enough to figure this out and there should still exist space for us all to question, debate and sample all manner of spiritual commitment.

Maybe you were brought up in the Judeo Christian construct( and if you were raised in America, you were) and have a difficult time breaking away from what is familiar and moving into and towards the unknown.

It is important that we open our hearts and minds to what other folks believe and the ways individuals structure their lives according to what they find important.

If any institution, no matter how well meaning, suggests that you be less human or give up big chunks of yourself under the auspice that you will win later, run.

Anything that demands more of our humanity and not less is what we should focus on.

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A Letter to Mike Brown’s Parents

Dear Mr.and Mrs. Brown,

Please forgive us for not standing up for your son.

Please forgive us for not adopting him early and often in ways that would have made his death preventable.

Forgive me for not understanding and refusing to believe that there are forces out there bent on destroying young, brilliant, beautiful black men.

As a grandfather to a pair of sweet young black boys, I am now aware of the possibility for violence that may be directed at them.

What are your suggestions that will allow for communal change and not exploit your child in the process?

It is time we collectively grieved with you and for him.

Use this time to care for yourselves and get clear about what it is you will demand from the citizens of your town and the police force.

Many people will fear your anger. Great, they should.

Anybody who has ever created anything of value post brutalization was initially motivated by anger.

Understand its presence and power while allowing to create change.

Many folks will suggest you live in gratitude.

May I suggest you live in and for revolution.

May I suggest that you lead us all in a collective movement to understand and annihilate hatred, bigotry and mistreatment of all people.

You and your son are in my thoughts,

Anthony Carter

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Richard Pryor, Murdered Black Men and Police Brutality

When I began doing stand up comedy in 1999, I aspired to be as brilliant as Richard Pryor.

Great comedy slams ideas together, questions the ridiculousness of humor behavior, stares at what terrifies and points out how truly stupid and amazing human beings can be.

Great artists force us to self reflect and offer us an opportunity to restructure our lives, seek amends for awful decisions and examine new solutions that require bravery and incredible vulnerability.

Blacks are being assaulted and murdered at an alarming rate.

We could use Mr. Pryor's insight and incredible storytelling abilities to illustrate what needs to be done and the type of courage that true change requires.

Years ago, I saw a bit he performed where he talked about rape in a comedic light before switching to its after affect (stealing another's humanity).

We are in need of someone with his stones and a commitment to pointing out that (the slaughter of black bodies) is beyond horrendous.

Where are all the black or white allies in the comedy field who could highlight this current tragic state?

We don't need more artists talking. We need more artists with something to say.

We need artists who are willing to piss people off immediately after making them laugh.

We need less gratitude and more revolution.

Mr. Pryor could discuss his drug use,fascination with death and his own destruction and make you think that anything was possible and our ability to share our humanity was our greatest strength.

I can picture Richard performing at a policemen's banquet before heading to the ghetto to perform the same set.

Wouldn't it be incredible to then bring the groups together for a yuck fest and then a heartfelt discussion about our assumptions, fascination with violence, fear, hatred and distrust of the "other"?

Richard I know you are watching these shenanigans and getting a whole lot of great material.

Do us all a favor and send us a proxy with your love for humanity and ability to tell the truth.

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Twenty Dead… Gone but Not Forgotten

We have become too desensitized to the deaths of those in our community. Here is a list so that we never forget and continue to fight.

Kimani Grey
Kendrec McDade
Timothy Russell
Ervin Jefferson
Amadou Diallo
Patrick Dorismond
Ousmane Zongo
Timothy Stansbury Jr.
Sean Bell
Orlando Barlow
Aaron Campbell
Victor Steen
Steven Eugene Washington
Alonzo Ashley
Wendell Allen
Ronald Madison and James Brissette
Tavares McGill
Ramarley Graham
Oscar Grant
Manuel Loggins Jr.

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Changing Our Hearts Part 2

My mother used to manipulate and mock me with taps on the lips admonishing me that : I must learn to listen.

I always found this humiliating and could never quite put together why I should listen to anybody who was inconsistent with their information sharing or in some cases flat out lied and changed facts, stories at will.

Why listen if the story will get rewritten without my knowledge or consent and then shoved in my face later as fact.

One of the most disturbing and predictable ways fear infiltrates our beings is through sullied hearing.

Despite what most relationship and business gurus proclaim, most people don't listen for understanding which could build enormous empathy.

Most folks listen for lies, inconsistencies and any opportunity to poke holes in a persons' theories.

If I am planning a snappy retort or simply waiting for you to shut your pie hole so I can jump in with a solution, I am not really listening.

I'm in my head figuring out how to make you wrong and myself right.

It's odd that we listen whole heartedly and with much attention when we meet someone new.

Whether our interest is romantically based or platonic, the "new" demands and gets our attention.

Once routines take the place of genuine sharing and building, we often decide that true listening is no longer required.

We no longer listen to deepen or enrich our experience of one another.

To truly listen, we must accept the fact that a) I might be wrong about something, b) it's okay to be wrong, c) it might be scary and uncomfortable to not go into problem solving mode to ease our own discomfort, d) if the relationship is really important we must accept the aforementioned happening and show up to really listen anyway.

When we invite heart listening, it is a supremely unfamiliar and satisfying experience.

During the last decade, I have witnessed people carrying on at least two conversations at once and not really hearing either of them.

Many of my female colleagues and coworkers love to point out that men are not great at multitasking and that we don't listen.

Heart to heart listening involves giving the person your listening to undivided focus and attention.

I can always tell when I am fiercely engaged as a listener.

When whole heartedly engaged, I will be moved by something.

Something will be heard that will require me to change or alter my mood or thinking.

Another tired trick that myself and many educators use is the standard and always productive: tell me what I just said. Anybody can parrot back what they just heard and this is also a kinder, gentler version of not listening.

Be willing to be scared, wrong, judgmental or just plain stupid in an effort to do this listening thing differently.

You might pick up some new ways of thinking or gain a better, richer understanding of a person you've known for years.

Anybody I know who listens in an effort to deepen connection always fairs better than the one listening for the sole purpose of being right.

Being right is fun. Is it worth it ?

Being right means somebody has got to be wrong.

What's most important to you, being heard or being right at all costs ?

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Why Changing Our Hearts is more Important than Changing Laws

When I taught high school English classes, I reminded my students that while change is often challenging, it can and is incorporated on a daily basis.

To illustrate this point, I discussed life before the internet or call waiting and being able to see the person you are speaking with on a hand held device was considered Science Fiction.

As a country steeped in shame and disconnection, we are lonely and require constant interaction. It is this reality that drove us to create social media and then laws to govern its usage.

We changed our heart's desires and then the world around us changed.

It is time that we asked ourselves why sacrificing humans is an alright idea.

The desire to protect one segment of our community while destroying another must be questioned and eliminated.

Silence will not protect us either.

Many believe that if they remain silent that things will work themselves out.

Things never work themselves out.

A small group gets their hearts touched and then takes action.

In the words of Sir Richard Branson: they start before they feel ready.

Changing laws and restructuring legislation occurs after people demand it. People demand changed laws when their hearts have been moved.

How do we move another's heart ?

We challenge ourselves to understand our behavior and look at places(in our hearts) that make us cringe.

Do we view injustices and silently rejoice that it's "them and not us" ?

Do we hear of an arrest and say: he may not be guilty of what he was arrested for but I'm sure he's done something that he hasn't gotten caught for".

Once we are clear about our embarrassing racism, class issues and irrational fears, we can decide to speak up and out.

Rather than wait for a legal change that may or may not affect you, make the decision that all life is valid and precious and allowing its destruction is evil and cowardly.

Gather in homes and discuss the painful reality that none of us have done enough.

Take action outside the home by taking on projects (beautification of an abandoned lot, creation of a large community garden, adding a street light or stop sign at a dangerous corner).

Creating small and pivotal agreed upon goals makes the heart feel better and larger which leads to the belief that anything is possible.

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