Nine Things Black Folks Need to Stop Doing

So many young people and those who did not witness black folks being water housed and attacked by bigots and their dogs mistakenly assume that racism and its many incarnations and offshoots are a thing of the past. Our collective ignorance is so great that it is just astounding. I often fantasize that King, Malcolm,… Read More »

Top Ten Reasons to Love Black Panther by Daryl Sturgis

Someone asked me to give them 10 reasons I loved Black Panther. Here is my mostly spoiler-free answer: 1) The screenplay did a great job of balancing action and exposition. We got a brief origin story at the beginning of the film that was backfilled along the way. 2) The film didn’t shy away from… Read More »

What Black Lightning Can Teach Us About Black Love

Most of what Hollywood creates and peddles as black love and revolution simply doesn’t cut it. Over the years, we have seen several attempts to entertain and pimp us by recycling black images that don’t uplift or change us in any effective way. However, we now have a new voice and representation that makes me… Read More »

She Real Cool : My Long Overdue Love Letter to bell hooks

Twenty five years ago this Fall, I had a spiritual breakthrough/mental breakdown. Twenty five years ago, I left another disastrous and doomed from the start relationship. My second one in less than a year. What made this one different is that two wonderful women entered and changed my life (Vievee Francis who had been a… Read More »

Psst.. The Number One Secret to Great Sex With Your Spouse (Keeping It Hard Twice a Week)

Admit it. You know you need to do it at least twice a week but don’t. You don’t want to even though it would make you and your mate uncontrollably happy. Most couples find sex less than thrilling about the same time they’ve heard you retell the same story about winning the third grade spelling… Read More »

The #1 Reason Marriages Become Sexless (And What To Do About It)

Remember a while back when I boldly stated:Shared victories would eliminate bedroom blahs and spark up a connection that had gone cold. I have a confession. I was wrong. The secret to a great relationship and mind blowing, soul shaking sex is difficult conversations. At minimum, twice weekly. Like most wonderful things in my life,… Read More »

The # 1 Cause of Drama (Broken Agreements) And What to Do About It

All issues, drama, chaos and confusion can be traced back to the same source. A broken agreement. Somebody didn’t hold up their end of an agreement and decided to go in another direction. Most of us make agreements all day with all sorts of people. Many of these agreements are not verbalized. They remain silent,… Read More »