Breaking the Silence: Why Black Men Neglect Self-Care and How to Change It

For two solid weeks, I stumbled around with a fever of 103. Along with the fever there were night sweats and the inability to sleep. While most people would have seen this as a signal to seek out medical help, I chose to soldier on and disregard my health. In earlier writings, I have directed… Read More »

Strong Stuff Asks: Who’s in Your Love Army ?

Jay Woodruff, Robin Johnson, Vicki Sechler, Scott Keller, Sheri Schialla, Mike Pointer, bell hooks, Tina Turner, the cast of Glee and Buffy. This was my dream team and how I kept the loaded gun out of my mouth and setting myself on fire. I would like to spend some time discussing how I put my… Read More »

Strong Stuff States: I Can’t Believe I Did That…So What ! Now What?!

I recently had an anniversary. I didn’t have a celebration. I had depression and a serious case of the “poor me’s”. I had to make a decision. Set myself on fire or create something from all the pain and angst I woke up with. I decided to create a brilliant, screwball comedy and sweep the… Read More »

Strong Stuff Asks: Why Did I Say This But Do That?

Having spent a fair amount of time talking with and for several years living with a person who earned a six-figure income, there are a few “secrets” that I have been privy to. For one thing, although it is a mind set, there is much that is gleaned from consistently being in the position to… Read More »

The Great Male Bonding Hoax

My very good friend Carlos and I never tested our friendship. Many mornings we worked together serving coffee and discussing what we would do once our shifts ended. Often our conversations involved advising one another about intimate relationships, money and career ambitions. When my birthday rolled around in February 2008, everything changed. I threw a… Read More »

How I learned to Stay Out of Credit Card Debt

Being young is great. Being young, dumb and broke is not. At twenty three, I thought I knew everything. Particularly around money. I didn’t know that money was an entity to be managed and nurtured like all great relationships. And since I chose stupidity over learning about and dealing with money, credit card companies swooped… Read More »

Winning at Work By Giving Up Certainty

“Learning Organizations” are not just the topic of TED Talks and progressive companies, it is now the chic little black dress of corporate America. While I am all about learning in my personal and day to day existence, I get queasy and befuddled when I am instructed to share my dreams with a group of… Read More »