Someone asked me to give them 10 reasons I loved Black Panther. Here is my mostly spoiler-free answer: 1) The screenplay did a great job of balancing action and exposition. We got a brief origin story at the beginning of the film that was backfilled along the way. 2) The film didn’t shy away from… Read More »
Building a love army is not complete without the final step (letting go of relationships that you’ve outgrown). When creating a love army, it is imperative that we are brutally honest with ourselves. It is not cruel or selfish to realize that certain behaviors and people are no longer what your life requires. When evolution… Read More »
In Sade’s 2010 single, “Soldier of Love”, she shares she’s doing her best. As a person who is also committed to doing his best, my devotion to friends and a few family members is how I strive and hold myself responsible for showing up for me. For many years, I was unaware that myself and… Read More »
My new favorite handbook on all things love related is Nathaniel Branden’s What Love Asks of Us. A particularly haunting and troubling point was made regarding the effects that parental lying to children causes. It basically fucks them up. I was thinking of this yesterday when I spoke with my dad regarding some XMAS money… Read More »
Porn is so satisfying for so many of us because we know from the moment we hit send, download that clip or pop in that dvd, what will happen.
Along with ritual comes a very different approach to interacting that will fundamentally change the way your relationship unfolds. The concept of appreciation is not new. In the Buddhism that I practice, most of the prayers mention appreciation in one form or another. This powerful but seemingly small technique allows us to keep the focus… Read More »
For a very long time, I have been obsessed with long term “happy” life-enhancing relationships.
“To be fearless no matter what happens-that is the root of true happiness. To move forward resolutely regardless of what lies in store-that is the spirit of, the resolve that leads to human victory. But if we allow ourselves to be disturbed by petty criticism and slander, or we fear pressure and persecution, we will… Read More »
The Summer of 2002 proved hot, steamy and highly productive. I was 34 and thought my life couldn’t get any better. It is amazing the things we either let ourselves believe or create in an effort to hold onto joy and constant good feelings. I was very happily married. Had learned to cook and was… Read More »
Growing up and coming out, I constantly heard very interesting messages regarding friendships between men and women. The message was loud and clear and annoying: they don’t work. I thought this was interesting and often wondered why people would make such assumptions. Then of course, I grew up and started dating men and to some… Read More »