Many years ago, I read a book entitled Do What You Love and the Money Will Follow. Young and optimistic, I was in search of anything written that would explain my desire to create and affirm that it was the right life decision for me. I found proof that I was right in both my… Read More »
Some years back, I wrote a piece to the infectious and still omnipresent HIV disease. There is no logical reason for anyone to become infected. We are not dealing with logic. We are dealing with people. We are dealing with human beings whose only concern is : who will love me? Am I worthy of… Read More »
Many gay male sexual relationships begin in less than ideal settings and situations.
I have dated many men who felt the need to recant and rail on about every sexual encounter they have ever had. I always thought this is why good friends are created. Much like Carrie and the girls discussing every dating and sexual triumph and hiccup over scrambled eggs and coffee, good friends allow us… Read More »
I have had bad experiences trying to make fuck buddies into legitimate friends. Having witnessed several friends attempt and fail repeatedly at this endeavor, I am assuming either it doesn’t work or either my friends and I are a bunch of dopes. Gay men learn early on how to sexualize absolutely everything.
Growing up and coming out, I constantly heard very interesting messages regarding friendships between men and women. The message was loud and clear and annoying: they don’t work. I thought this was interesting and often wondered why people would make such assumptions. Then of course, I grew up and started dating men and to some… Read More »
We as gay people must absolutely unite and support one another completely. We will have no real future or hope for any real obtainable equality if we are not equal and united among ourselves. I try not to judge those who are different than me. And what people who don’t tend to interracially date or… Read More »
I have spent half of my dating life with white men. As far as I can see, there is a great deal of confusion and mayhem regarding how these seemingly divergent groups get along, partner up and develop loving, committed non exploitative relationships. What is this thing we call attraction ? Is it learned ?… Read More »