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The High Cost of Being Right versus Being Effective

My new main most crush is the sublime Neil deGrasse Tyson. For more than a month, I’ve been racking my brains trying to figure out how I could get inside that brilliant, sexy mind. I was absolutely without a doubt getting into his Master Class and squirreling away money to make this dream a reality.… Read More »

How to Eliminate the Good/Bad Parent Hoax

Most of my young life, I dreamt of a large family with many children screaming, playfully terrorizing one another and basically providing loads of love and energy in a semi large contained space. There were only two problems : I am gay and I could not find another suitable individual who had done the emotional… Read More »

When Families Attack: How Gays Survive the Ignorance and Rejection of Their Families

When I announced my pending marriage more than four months ago , my family was very vocal with their disapproval. Some of the bullshit I heard was just mesmerizing. “You don’t know him that well”. “Nobody in our family has met him and You are making a big mistake are a few of the brilliant… Read More »

Black, Gay and building community (VIDEO)

As gay men, any and all attempts to build community puts a nail in the coffin of domination, coercion and exploitation. Within the world that relies and feeds on isolation, we offer it a great big kick in the pants when we refuse to “go away”, be silenced or allow ourselves the privilege of second… Read More »

Why We Should Cancel Pride Celebrations

Pride festivals for all of 2011 and beyond should be canceled. More important than hunky guys, displays of camp, and the all consuming focus on gay marriage, our young people need all of our time and access to resources. It will not do any young person any good to go to a rally and have… Read More »