Dear Mr. Porter, This is a raving, rabid fan letter. Many years ago, I saw a video of you singing “Love is on the Way” and it was magical. I silently cried and sent a prayer to you knowing that if you were to survive and thrive inside this game you would need support by… Read More »
Aging ain’t for the faint of heart. Have a listen as I share what it means to deal with family, marriage, children and the fear of not being “enough”. I doesn’t get easier; we get wiser.
Everyday all around me and in multiple formats, the world reminds me that I’m flawed and not a “real man”. Men who Resist Domination are often seen as weak, pussies, someone to trifle with. We are often seen as less of a threat to the world. For not upholding toxic and typical masculinity, we pay… Read More »
Lies hurt. When we speak of improving our health very little attention is paid to the lies we ingest. We are told lies about the importance of our health. Black Men do not take care of their health and we pay the price via high blood pressure, diabetes, stress and a host of other maladies.… Read More »
At 47, I have realized much time has been spent like Carrie Bradshaw and the girls: Chasing men who don’t want me or can’t or won’t love me. My entire twenties was spent coasting from one ill-fated and dead end relationship to another. The one constant was my soul crushing, mind numbing loneliness and state… Read More »
I have spent an inordinate amount of time explaining my thoughts,dreams and behavior.
Recently, I watched a very telling discussion with my favorite writer, bell hooks.
In this wacky economy, there is a need for self reinvention. In the wild, living organisms adapt and change or die. So many of us refuse to listen to reason and refuse to alter what it is we’re doing simply because we can’t accept the fact that the pickle we have found ourselves in is… Read More »
“Are you sure you wanna be well sweetheart? A lot of weight when you’re well”. The Salt Eaters The first time I had peach yogurt, I was visiting a friend in a mental institution.