Tag Archives: male culture

The High Cost of Being Right

Brene Brown in all fierce wisdom reminds us that men are socialized to not “appear weak”. This set up demands that men have all the answers all the time and be willing to share this knowledge with the world just to make sure that everyone in earshot knows the proper course of action. Many times… Read More »

My Year of Living Dangerously by Taking Full Responsibility for Everything

Yesterday, I made a mistake at work and totally forgot to acquire an agreed upon resource for one of my wonderful students. Work relationships, like all relationships that you decide to invest in emotionally, give you the opportunity to address familial and chronic distresses and “not good enoughs”. We can decide to speak up or… Read More »

Coming Late to The Party: When People Come Out Later in Life

During the course of my first relationship, I would deal with the coming out process, AIDS, and developing relationships wherein my sexuality would not cause anyone problems or upset. I also learned all the lies required to survive: distancing myself from flamboyant queens, switching pronouns when speaking in mixed company, avoiding family gatherings and the… Read More »

Seven Tips to Make Your Parenting Suck Less

When I began teaching, I wanted six children of my own. Once I entered the classroom and noticed the pure insanity of the “system”, the way children were treated and expected to learn and one awful teacher to many, I rethought my decision. I assumed that it was the educator’s job to educate no matter… Read More »

Why Being Color Blind Is Racist and What to Do Instead

White Supremacy has to be the greatest invention mankind has ever created. I made the decision years ago to be more powerful than this invention, remain vigilant and “awake” and stay away from self defeating paranoia. My commitment to uprooting its seductive powers is based on relentless decolonization. My obsession with the collection and use… Read More »

Why Radical Feminism will Save Black Men and Those that Brutalize Them

Many smart, well meaning people are terribly confused about feminism and its power. Many folks assign those committed to feminist based struggle and societal reordering as: banner wavers, complainers, angry dykes(men in drag upset because certain resources are unavailable). My understanding of Radical Feminism’s power is based on how my life has been affected and… Read More »