Tag Archives: relationships

How to Survive 2.5 Years of Unemployment Without Losing Your Mind

When I was laid off from a wonderful job that I loved, I didn’t panic. When one month of unemployment became three , I didn’t panic. After hitting the one year jobless mark, I panicked. While others around me railed on nonstop about the recession and no money and foreclosures, I confidently assured myself and… Read More »

How Brownies Helped me Survive Joblessness

There is a part of us that is very wise and is extremely adept at coming up with solutions and thinking things through. To thrive amidst chaos and upset, we should undoubtedly listen to the wise part of us. It is this part of my right thinking mind that came up with the great idea… Read More »

3 Proven Ways to Change Your Behavior Around Money

Are you following money blueprints that aren’t yours? Did you take thinking and behaviors that were handed down to you just like Mother’s mac and cheese recipe or Big Momma’s finger licking pound cake? Thoughts and behaviors are fine as long as they’re yours and honor your life’s vision. We march along running our lives… Read More »

Why Your Job is Making You Fat Part 2

At a recent meeting and in couple’s counselling all over the world, the same tired tune is played. We don’t communicate. When I recently heard this statement, I gently offered the insight that no we don’t have a communication issue; we have an accountability issue. So much of what passes for communication in the work… Read More »

Five Radical Ways to Improve Your Relationships According to an Eight Year Old

Children don’t learn to lie and mask their feelings until adults school them in ways to deceive and manipulate. On a daily basis, I am surrounded with and interact with small children between the ages of four and eight. These remarkable creatures have taught me a great deal about being a better human being who… Read More »

The # 1 Cause of Drama (Broken Agreements) And What to Do About It

All issues, drama, chaos and confusion can be traced back to the same source. A broken agreement. Somebody didn’t hold up their end of an agreement and decided to go in another direction. Most of us make agreements all day with all sorts of people. Many of these agreements are not verbalized. They remain silent,… Read More »

The #1 Reason Men Struggle with Relationships (And What to Do About It)

Men lie. We live in a culture that encourages lies and shame. Men are rarely supported in speaking their truth. We are supported in giving up what makes us vulnerable, real and ultimately human. Male gender assignments start early thereby limiting and infringing on our ability to become better men and human beings. Primarily, we… Read More »

How Cialis can solve the HIV crisis

CIALIS doesn’t protect a man or his partner from sexually transmitted diseases, including HIV, and does not serve as a male form of birth control. Shame on Cialis and its creator. Mr. Cialis you are definitely missing out on a true goldmine. With all of the massive increases in HIV infections and the hyper sexuality… Read More »

Moving beyond Fetish… The opportunities for growth and joy via black and white gay male relationships

I have spent half of my dating life with white men. As far as I can see, there is a great deal of confusion and mayhem regarding how these seemingly divergent groups get along, partner up and develop loving, committed non exploitative relationships. What is this thing we call attraction ? Is it learned ?… Read More »