Tag Archives: avoidance

The #1 Reason Marriages Become Sexless (And What To Do About It)

Remember a while back when I boldly stated:Shared victories would eliminate bedroom blahs and spark up a connection that had gone cold. I have a confession. I was wrong. The secret to a great relationship and mind blowing, soul shaking sex is difficult conversations. At minimum, twice weekly. Like most wonderful things in my life,… Read More »

Coming Late to The Party: When People Come Out Later in Life

During the course of my first relationship, I would deal with the coming out process, AIDS, and developing relationships wherein my sexuality would not cause anyone problems or upset. I also learned all the lies required to survive: distancing myself from flamboyant queens, switching pronouns when speaking in mixed company, avoiding family gatherings and the… Read More »

Why Capitalism is Responsible for Bareback Sex

When I first moved to California, I began meeting and talking with several men who were homeless hustlers. Miguel,Sean and a few other attractive and kind individuals schooled me in the ways of making money with your body. This was not new to me. Living in Harlem many years ago, my neighbor who lived down… Read More »

How Cialis can solve the HIV crisis

CIALIS doesn’t protect a man or his partner from sexually transmitted diseases, including HIV, and does not serve as a male form of birth control. Shame on Cialis and its creator. Mr. Cialis you are definitely missing out on a true goldmine. With all of the massive increases in HIV infections and the hyper sexuality… Read More »

Why HIV Infection Rates are Up for Young Black Males 3

When I was nineteen, a family friend who was also a doctor terrorized me. In addition to misdiagnosing me, I was made to feel ashamed, stupid and just plain bad about myself for being both attracted to men and acting on this attraction. To this day, I still hate and dread doctors. This was my… Read More »

Why HIV infection rates are up for young black males 2

In the brilliant film, Change, the protagonist is charming, sweet, young and conflicted. As a young, black male, he struggles with his sexual identification. The people who know and love him see gays as problematic. He doesn’t come out or share his feelings for other young men and the cost is brutal. This leads to… Read More »