When I began thinking of writing this piece, I had several fears. As a man, when you call women to task, you are always placing yourself in the role of being misunderstood and labeled sexist and misogynistic. Whenever a member of a particular group dares to critically examine the thinking or behavior of another group… Read More »
Power and who gets to have and wield it often get a bad rap. Power and its direct offshoot, leadership, are not valued by people who have been victimized by powerful people. I am very concerned with who gets listened to and why and why more of this type of inequality is not more scrutinized… Read More »
Lee Daniels, Oprah and their very entertaining movie (The Butler) are having quite a moment. It always amazes me that the very large and in many ways predictable white power structure makes a decision to “anoint” certain people authorities and makes the decision to silence others. As a result of Mr. Daniels and Ms. Winfrey’s… Read More »
During the course of my first relationship, I would deal with the coming out process, AIDS, and developing relationships wherein my sexuality would not cause anyone problems or upset. I also learned all the lies required to survive: distancing myself from flamboyant queens, switching pronouns when speaking in mixed company, avoiding family gatherings and the… Read More »
Many of us learn to hide and be dishonest in childhood.
“All of life’s important decisions are made without enough information, and coming out is no exception. We make our decisions based upon predictions about how our lives will be affected by the possible outcomes.” Olson p. 67
I don’t know my Nephew. I have not seen my family in two years. Fear hurts. Fear kills. Fear breeds stupidity disguised as safety. As an out , proud black gay man, I am often asked to be less than my marvelous self. This can be addressed with a hearty fuck you. It is more… Read More »
I would like to sincerely apologize for being an elder within the community and not doing my part.