Tag Archives: black community
Men Refusing Domination
Everyday all around me and in multiple formats, the world reminds me that I’m flawed and not a “real man”. Men who Resist Domination are often seen as weak, pussies, someone to trifle with. We are often seen as less of a threat to the world. For not upholding toxic and typical masculinity, we pay… Read More »
Three Things Black Folks Can Do to Improve Our Lives Part 2
While I am thrilled with all of the technological advances we’ve made in the last twenty years, we must consider what has happened to our young people. Part 2 in this series is all about young people and the media. Black folks please stop allowing the media and pop culture to raise our children and… Read More »
When Families Attack: How Gays Survive the Ignorance and Rejection of Their Families
When I announced my pending marriage more than four months ago , my family was very vocal with their disapproval. Some of the bullshit I heard was just mesmerizing. “You don’t know him that well”. “Nobody in our family has met him and You are making a big mistake are a few of the brilliant… Read More »
My Straight Dad is coming to My Gay Wedding
My father is flying in from Detroit, Michigan to witness me marry a man. If we’d had a history of progressive thought and shared action based in liberation and freedom of thought this may not be so shocking. We have not. As a young child and into adulthood, I performed a great deal of hiding… Read More »
High cost of Fear
I don’t know my Nephew. I have not seen my family in two years. Fear hurts. Fear kills. Fear breeds stupidity disguised as safety. As an out , proud black gay man, I am often asked to be less than my marvelous self. This can be addressed with a hearty fuck you. It is more… Read More »