When people want to punish those they love nothing works better than rendering them invisible. Nathaniel Branden in his brilliant work on self esteem and its effects on relationships often highlights the need for psychological visibility. With this powerful ingredient, the ways that persons interact are filled with opportunities for growth and unlimited emotional intimacy.… Read More »
Everyday all around me and in multiple formats, the world reminds me that I’m flawed and not a “real man”. Men who Resist Domination are often seen as weak, pussies, someone to trifle with. We are often seen as less of a threat to the world. For not upholding toxic and typical masculinity, we pay… Read More »
If we really want to move forward and make some changes, we’ve got to get and keep our minds together. So many of us are bat shit crazy with no desire to get better. We can’t move forward when so many of us are consumed with emotional and psychological pain. I have met several people… Read More »
We all need to put on our big boy shoes and handle our business when it comes to sex and money and our young people. In fact, I know a whole lot of older folks who could use a good talking to in this regard as well. Nobody is kept safe by being kept stupid.… Read More »
Stop worrying about what white folks think or feel about you. Much of our collective suffering and inability to rethink solutions and possible outcomes have their root in the seduction and performance that is whiteness. Far too many of us believe that we can appease the “theys” in our worlds if we constantly and stupidly… Read More »
“Learn to value what’s right over what’s easy.” Suze Orman We live in a society of instant messaging and the ability to meet, interact with and co-create with strangers and friends all over the world. There is little reason to work hard and plan long term. Everyday I am surrounded by and deal with entitled,… Read More »
Within the gay community, there seem to be two factions, old and young. I want to specifically address these issues even though I know someone will bitch and say we have more issues than this, or this is too simplistic, or we’re far more complex.