Tag Archives: artistic expression

When Families Attack: How Gays Survive the Ignorance and Rejection of Their Families

When I announced my pending marriage more than four months ago , my family was very vocal with their disapproval. Some of the bullshit I heard was just mesmerizing. “You don’t know him that well”. “Nobody in our family has met him and You are making a big mistake are a few of the brilliant… Read More »

3 Things that screw up black and white gay male relationships Part 2 : Rooting around in our sexual past

I have dated many men who felt the need to recant and rail on about every sexual encounter they have ever had. I always thought this is why good friends are created. Much like Carrie and the girls discussing every dating and sexual triumph and hiccup over scrambled eggs and coffee, good friends allow us… Read More »

Don’t read this unless you are Color Blind

Recently, I read an article and watched an accompanying video regarding black/white gay male relationships. I was surprised by the vocal and passionate responses of some of the readers. When I began blogging over a year ago, it was in direct response to an article that was filled with stereotypical responses to black and white… Read More »

Moving beyond Fetish… The opportunities for growth and joy via black and white gay male relationships

I have spent half of my dating life with white men. As far as I can see, there is a great deal of confusion and mayhem regarding how these seemingly divergent groups get along, partner up and develop loving, committed non exploitative relationships. What is this thing we call attraction ? Is it learned ?… Read More »