Tag Archives: John Gottman

How to Divorce-Proof Your Marriage

When gays started getting married in droves some years back, there was much discussion of how this would solve all of our collective problems. HIV/AIDS, cheating spouses, promiscuity would all disappear or so we were lead to believe. With enough courage and the claiming of very understandable rights, we would all get the benefits of… Read More »

Why the “R” Word Destroys Your Relationships and What to Do Instead

Admit it. You’ve heard every story your signinficant other has told at least 20 times. And now they’re telling it again. You smile, nod and pray that a life-destroying comet is heading directly for your house. Or maybe a plague of locusts. Anything that would prevent this tale from being told yet again. I get… Read More »

Burn the Manual Presents: What the World Needs Now is More Sanity

Early this morning my husband and I decided that the world has lost its collective marbles. Currently, the world we live in is one where there are no boundaries and constant interruptions are as common as drinking my third cup of coffee by ten a.m. How do you create a sanctuary that is nurturing and… Read More »

Ask the Old Guy Presents: The Process of Making Good Friends

Often times, we find ourselves in the most ridiculous positions. We get very confused and many times overstep boundaries and cause grief, heartache, and confusion. How many friendships could have been spectacular but got derailed because we either don’t keep it in our pants or can’t help acting out if it stays in our pants?… Read More »

Don’t read this unless you are Color Blind

Recently, I read an article and watched an accompanying video regarding black/white gay male relationships. I was surprised by the vocal and passionate responses of some of the readers. When I began blogging over a year ago, it was in direct response to an article that was filled with stereotypical responses to black and white… Read More »