Tag Archives: self nurturing

Nine Things Black Folks Need to Stop Doing Part 9 (Physical Well Being)

Diabetes, obesity, high blood pressure,stress (the body’s reaction to carrying more than it should, thanks bell hooks)and cancer are just a few of the things that seem to attack us and take us out in grave numbers. So much of our health and the choices that we make on a daily basis have a profound… Read More »

The Number 1 Reason Relationships Fail (And What to Do About It)

Most of us lie all the time. My friends and acquaintances who were brought up outside of the United States have a very different approach to love, relationships and friendships. It is their approach to communicating and commitment that I model when examining and making attempts to deepen and enrich my interactions with others. While… Read More »

Can We Trust Our Friends to Support Our Personal Growth

During our lives, we will meet several people. Some of these folks we will know a lifetime. Some folks will be around for a good time and then dash when the first sign of trouble presents itself. I have had several acquaintances and very few true friends. True friends can save your life or at… Read More »

Why We All Need a Love Army and a Three Step Process to Building and Maintaining One- Part 3

Building a love army is not complete without the final step (letting go of relationships that you’ve outgrown). When creating a love army, it is imperative that we are brutally honest with ourselves. It is not cruel or selfish to realize that certain behaviors and people are no longer what your life requires. When evolution… Read More »

Can Gay Men be Friends ?

Growing up and coming out, I constantly heard very interesting messages regarding friendships between men and women. The message was loud and clear and annoying: they don’t work. I thought this was interesting and often wondered why people would make such assumptions. Then of course, I grew up and started dating men and to some… Read More »

The Myth of Independence

Beyonce sang about it. People love to talk about it when everything is going well. It’s a great topic when all is right in your world and you are not attempting to grow with your partner. This huge American obsession with independence is a hoax. There truly is no such thing. Nobody does anything by… Read More »