Sometimes, you get a visual of something and it won’t let you be. Two weeks ago, I watched a wonderful film, The Leisure Seeker that deals with long term commitment, memory loss and growing older. There are so many things that no one bothers to mention regarding the aging process. Hearing loss, vision battles and… Read More »
During the last fifteen years, I’ve chosen to confront and manage not only my wants but the wanting of those around me. At fifty, I still have a fair amount of wants and remain super clear as to how to manage them. I don’t want to become insane about them nor allow them to rule… Read More »
Thirty years ago, I was flat out dumb about the power of finances. I spent money with abandon and knew nothing about saving, long term planning or the choices that could be created if one handled their finances. Using a money blueprint that was passed down to me from my family, I constantly whined that… Read More »
I have spent far too much time treating my straight male friends like shit. When it comes to friendships with straight male counterparts, my assumptions are quick, limiting and in many cases wrong. This is a problem when I fight for and demand that we as men think and behave differently and when personally offered… Read More »
When strangers, with their unfamiliar voices and smells came to my apartment, my cats would hide somewhere safe. It is amazing to me that humans think we are so smart. Yes, we can count and reason and plan and evaluate. We can also become depressed and flat out refuse to do the thing that would… Read More »
I have had bad experiences trying to make fuck buddies into legitimate friends. Having witnessed several friends attempt and fail repeatedly at this endeavor, I am assuming either it doesn’t work or either my friends and I are a bunch of dopes. Gay men learn early on how to sexualize absolutely everything.