Tag Archives: What Tina Turner Taught Me About Making a Comback

Ask the Old Guy Speaks to His 20 Something Self

About twenty years ago, I took a huge risk, grew a set of larger-than-normal nuts and decided that I would write and perform characters. Each character in my opinion was bright, witty, interesting and had something to say. Each character was also a personality that would have never been given the opportunity to share their… Read More »

How to Recreate Your Family and Guarantee a Sense of Belonging

When children are born, they are looking in the faces of all these strange people with one question in mind- Do I belong here? What we are seeking from birth onward is the question: Am I worthy of connection? As a culture, we refuse to see it and recognize it as normal, healthy and human.… Read More »

What Fifty Years of Compassionate Impatience Can Get You

In this country, three factions can get away with telling the truth- mentally insane, small children and old folks. If you live long enough, you will get to spend some time in each category. Currently, I live and play behind door # 3. As I age, I find no reason to agree to bullshit I… Read More »

Don’t Read This Unless You Plan on Living to Be 1,000

Almost ten years ago, I made a personal vow to myself. My vow was all about committing to a life of artistic merit. My decision was to give myself fifty years to “make it” in the arts. While my idea of having made it has changed considerably over the years, my desire to constantly create… Read More »

How My Steamy 45 Second Affair with Hugh Jackman Saved My Marriage

Admit it. Whenever you see Wolverine in all his muscled glory you go weak in the knees. Ya’ll remember that time when the adamantium transfer was complete and he leapt up from that tub buck naked and you lost your ever-loving mind. Don’t pretend you didn’t swoon when he woke up in 1974 rocking them… Read More »

Who Else Wants to Hire a 30 Year Old with 50 Years of Experience?

In the book, So Good They Can’t Ignore You, the writer shares a term (that I love) called Career Capital. This means there are folks who have put in their time, earned their stripes and learned “a thang or two about a thang or two”. When you hire an older guy like me or my… Read More »

How to Get Financially Fit at Fifty

Thirty years ago, I was flat out dumb about the power of finances. I spent money with abandon and knew nothing about saving, long term planning or the choices that could be created if one handled their finances. Using a money blueprint that was passed down to me from my family, I constantly whined that… Read More »

How to Make a Sizzling Comeback

In a great TED talk recently a nerdy guy shared his spin on making a comeback. Apparently, at some point in our lives, most of us will not only need a comeback but will be nudged(gently or otherwise by life circumstances or the universe) into making one. When this happens, we have a couple of… Read More »

Three Secrets to a Successful Relationship

Many gay men wrongly assume that sexual attraction means relationship (material). What is not understood is how to create wonderful relationships. Often times those of us who have created something wonderful go underground. We make it difficult to provide tangible, visible proof of what two men who are in love the right way can create.… Read More »

The Myth of Independence

Beyonce sang about it. People love to talk about it when everything is going well. It’s a great topic when all is right in your world and you are not attempting to grow with your partner. This huge American obsession with independence is a hoax. There truly is no such thing. Nobody does anything by… Read More »