Tag Archives: healthy relationships

Strong Stuff Asks: Who’s in Your Love Army ?

Jay Woodruff, Robin Johnson, Vicki Sechler, Scott Keller, Sheri Schialla, Mike Pointer, bell hooks, Tina Turner, the cast of Glee and Buffy. This was my dream team and how I kept the loaded gun out of my mouth and setting myself on fire. I would like to spend some time discussing how I put my… Read More »

Strong Stuff States: I Can’t Believe I Did That…So What ! Now What?!

I recently had an anniversary. I didn’t have a celebration. I had depression and a serious case of the “poor me’s”. I had to make a decision. Set myself on fire or create something from all the pain and angst I woke up with. I decided to create a brilliant, screwball comedy and sweep the… Read More »

Strong Stuff Asks: Why Did I Say This But Do That?

Having spent a fair amount of time talking with and for several years living with a person who earned a six-figure income, there are a few “secrets” that I have been privy to. For one thing, although it is a mind set, there is much that is gleaned from consistently being in the position to… Read More »

Winning at Work By Giving Up Certainty

“Learning Organizations” are not just the topic of TED Talks and progressive companies, it is now the chic little black dress of corporate America. While I am all about learning in my personal and day to day existence, I get queasy and befuddled when I am instructed to share my dreams with a group of… Read More »

Psst: Here’s the Secret for Eliminating All Stress in Your Life

For many years, I was awash in curiosity about sociopaths and their behavior. In my twenties, I jumped from one ill fated and doomed romance to another always stating these dumb ass responses for my behavior: He “should” love me. He “should” give me some kind of act right. He “should ” want to be… Read More »

Burn the Manual Presents: The Power and Cost of Visibility

When people want to punish those they love nothing works better than rendering them invisible. Nathaniel Branden in his brilliant work on self esteem and its effects on relationships often highlights the need for psychological visibility. With this powerful ingredient, the ways that persons interact are filled with opportunities for growth and unlimited emotional intimacy.… Read More »

Burn the Manual interview with Dr. Ni (AUDIO)

Anthony is interviewed on the show “Journeying with Dr. Ni” on BlogTalkRadio.com. Running time: 1 hour 49 minutes. It is always a thrill to meet someone who thinks, acts and challenges themselves and the world. Please have a listen and get inspired to create change in your life and community. Your browser does not support… Read More »

When Families Attack: How Gays Survive the Ignorance and Rejection of Their Families

When I announced my pending marriage more than four months ago , my family was very vocal with their disapproval. Some of the bullshit I heard was just mesmerizing. “You don’t know him that well”. “Nobody in our family has met him and You are making a big mistake are a few of the brilliant… Read More »

Another gay male secret: I’m so disappointed

When I attempted to reconcile a doomed relationship for the third time in five years, my heart was broken and my mind was fried. I already knew the answer to the question “can this relationship be saved ?” No. It can’t. As black gay men, we get inducted into a lifetime of disappointment at a… Read More »