When people want to punish those they love nothing works better than rendering them invisible. Nathaniel Branden in his brilliant work on self esteem and its effects on relationships often highlights the need for psychological visibility. With this powerful ingredient, the ways that persons interact are filled with opportunities for growth and unlimited emotional intimacy.… Read More »
When I began writing Unfettered Mind: The Importance of Black Male Mental Health, I was unaware of the need for mental health tools and the denial by many that this was not an issue that needed to be addressed. HIV, unemployment, cripplingly low self esteem and a host of other issues menace black men in… Read More »
I want to believe that I am still 25. Accepting limitations is hard. Nobody wants to acknowledge that they are not the person they used to be. By accepting our limitations, we cannot be held back or limited because of them. This is the second step in building a love army. Start looking for folks… Read More »
In Sade’s 2010 single, “Soldier of Love”, she shares she’s doing her best. As a person who is also committed to doing his best, my devotion to friends and a few family members is how I strive and hold myself responsible for showing up for me. For many years, I was unaware that myself and… Read More »
Every time someone that I deeply care for says, “I love you”, I get frightened. It makes little sense to get shook up regarding this most basic of human needs and the thing myself and we all want the most. And yet, when it is stated it becomes a thing of suspicion. My personal experience… Read More »