Tag Archives: Cheerios

Burn the Manual Presents: The Power and Cost of Visibility

When people want to punish those they love nothing works better than rendering them invisible. Nathaniel Branden in his brilliant work on self esteem and its effects on relationships often highlights the need for psychological visibility. With this powerful ingredient, the ways that persons interact are filled with opportunities for growth and unlimited emotional intimacy.… Read More »

Why None of Us Have Earned the Right to Let Fear Rule Our Lives

Recently, I have been obsessed with images from the Civil Rights Movement. I want to be reminded of how vile human beings could be and the possibility of change. I want to remind myself that this group of brave soldiers (individuals) faced death, vicious dogs and racist violent cops willing to murder and annihilate children… Read More »

When Families Attack: How Gays Survive the Ignorance and Rejection of Their Families

When I announced my pending marriage more than four months ago , my family was very vocal with their disapproval. Some of the bullshit I heard was just mesmerizing. “You don’t know him that well”. “Nobody in our family has met him and You are making a big mistake are a few of the brilliant… Read More »

Why We All Need a Love Army and a Three Step Process to Building and Maintaining One- Part 3

Building a love army is not complete without the final step (letting go of relationships that you’ve outgrown). When creating a love army, it is imperative that we are brutally honest with ourselves. It is not cruel or selfish to realize that certain behaviors and people are no longer what your life requires. When evolution… Read More »

Do you feel bad about yourself because you no longer dream ?

“Just because you have a nightmare doesn’t mean stop dreaming” Jill Scott “For us to have self esteem is truly an act of revolution and our revolution is long overdue” Margaret Cho So much of my time has been spent learning to reparent myself. As a black intelligent gay man, I have spent years learning… Read More »