When people want to punish those they love nothing works better than rendering them invisible. Nathaniel Branden in his brilliant work on self esteem and its effects on relationships often highlights the need for psychological visibility. With this powerful ingredient, the ways that persons interact are filled with opportunities for growth and unlimited emotional intimacy.… Read More »
Recently, I have been obsessed with images from the Civil Rights Movement. I want to be reminded of how vile human beings could be and the possibility of change. I want to remind myself that this group of brave soldiers (individuals) faced death, vicious dogs and racist violent cops willing to murder and annihilate children… Read More »
When I announced my pending marriage more than four months ago , my family was very vocal with their disapproval. Some of the bullshit I heard was just mesmerizing. “You don’t know him that well”. “Nobody in our family has met him and You are making a big mistake are a few of the brilliant… Read More »
Building a love army is not complete without the final step (letting go of relationships that you’ve outgrown). When creating a love army, it is imperative that we are brutally honest with ourselves. It is not cruel or selfish to realize that certain behaviors and people are no longer what your life requires. When evolution… Read More »
“All of life’s important decisions are made without enough information, and coming out is no exception. We make our decisions based upon predictions about how our lives will be affected by the possible outcomes.” Olson p. 67
According to all of the images forced down my throat and into my psyche, I am not among the “hotness” that is gay male culture.
“Just because you have a nightmare doesn’t mean stop dreaming” Jill Scott “For us to have self esteem is truly an act of revolution and our revolution is long overdue” Margaret Cho So much of my time has been spent learning to reparent myself. As a black intelligent gay man, I have spent years learning… Read More »