Tag Archives: women

What Happens When She Mansplains?

When I began thinking of writing this piece, I had several fears. As a man, when you call women to task, you are always placing yourself in the role of being misunderstood and labeled sexist and misogynistic. Whenever a member of a particular group dares to critically examine the thinking or behavior of another group… Read More »

Are You Afraid of Being Powerful?

Power and who gets to have and wield it often get a bad rap. Power and its direct offshoot, leadership, are not valued by people who have been victimized by powerful people. I am very concerned with who gets listened to and why and why more of this type of inequality is not more scrutinized… Read More »

Lee Daniels, James Baldwin and Why It Isn’t Impossible for Black Men to Come Out

Lee Daniels, Oprah and their very entertaining movie (The Butler) are having quite a moment. It always amazes me that the very large and in many ways predictable white power structure makes a decision to “anoint” certain people authorities and makes the decision to silence others. As a result of Mr. Daniels and Ms. Winfrey’s… Read More »

Coming Late to The Party: When People Come Out Later in Life

During the course of my first relationship, I would deal with the coming out process, AIDS, and developing relationships wherein my sexuality would not cause anyone problems or upset. I also learned all the lies required to survive: distancing myself from flamboyant queens, switching pronouns when speaking in mixed company, avoiding family gatherings and the… Read More »