Author Archives: Anthony

Ask the Old Guy Speaks to His 20 Something Self

About twenty years ago, I took a huge risk, grew a set of larger-than-normal nuts and decided that I would write and perform characters. Each character in my opinion was bright, witty, interesting and had something to say. Each character was also a personality that would have never been given the opportunity to share their… Read More »

Burn the Manual Presents: What the World Needs Now is More Sanity

Early this morning my husband and I decided that the world has lost its collective marbles. Currently, the world we live in is one where there are no boundaries and constant interruptions are as common as drinking my third cup of coffee by ten a.m. How do you create a sanctuary that is nurturing and… Read More »

Ask the Old Guy Presents: The Process of Making Good Friends

Often times, we find ourselves in the most ridiculous positions. We get very confused and many times overstep boundaries and cause grief, heartache and confusion. How many friendships could have been spectacular but got derailed because we either don’t keep it in our pants or can’t help acting out if it stays in our pants?… Read More »

What to Do When the Poison That is Racism Enters Your Home

Several years ago, I read an essay about the ways that we respond to violence. We typically will have one reaction if we are assaulted by someone we don’t know or have never seen. We respond differently when it is someone we know intimately. Our most significant relationships either foster courage or wither away by… Read More »

Burn the Manual Presents: The Power and Cost of Visibility

When people want to punish those they love nothing works better than rendering them invisible. Nathaniel Branden in his brilliant work on self esteem and its effects on relationships often highlights the need for psychological visibility. With this powerful ingredient, the ways that persons interact are filled with opportunities for growth and unlimited emotional intimacy.… Read More »

Burn the Manual Presents: Designing New Systems for Better Results

For the last year, I have developed a healthy and in some cases obsessive focus on systems- how they work; how they get created; who determines if it is time for an update. Everything is systems based and success and failure is highly determined by an individuals level of self discipline within the system of… Read More »

How to Recreate Your Family and Guarantee a Sense of Belonging

When children are born, they are looking in the faces of all these strange people with one question in mind- Do I belong here? What we are seeking from birth onward is the question: Am I worthy of connection? As a culture, we refuse to see it and recognize it as normal, healthy and human.… Read More »

Shame, Shame ,Shame Everybody Knows Your Name

Many of my young charges struggle with some form of learning. While one may be brilliant and unstoppable with math and its application, the same person might have severe challenges with remembering to add punctuation at a sentence’s end. While another creates incredible artwork, there lies difficulties in manipulating numbers to construct a coherent plan… Read More »

What Fifty Years of Compassionate Impatience Can Get You

In this country, three factions can get away with telling the truth- mentally insane, small children and old folks. If you live long enough, you will get to spend some time in each category. Currently, I live and play behind door # 3. As I age, I find no reason to agree to bullshit I… Read More »

Burn the Manual Presents: Thriving in a Trump World- Stop Bitching Start a Revolution

We, at Burn the Manual, commit to taking action and out thinking systems that keep us broke, stupid, needy and victimized. Within our new governmental change, we are now either extremely fucked or on the verge of greatness. The Donald pimped and punked us all. Now what are we gonna do about it? My thinking… Read More »