Author Archives: Anthony

Psst: Here’s the Secret for Eliminating All Stress in Your Life

For many years, I was awash in curiosity about sociopaths and their behavior. In my twenties, I jumped from one ill fated and doomed romance to another always stating these dumb ass responses for my behavior: He “should” love me. He “should” give me some kind of act right. He “should ” want to be… Read More »

Ask the Old Guy Wonders: Did Desegregation Work?

When I was seven, my very gifted but slightly off her rocker Aunt used to perform Macbeth in our living room. She often discussed her love for all things Shakespeare and then rail on about what year in high school they studied each play. In my young impressionable mind, it was assumed that great literature,… Read More »

Gay Like Me: A Response to Time Wise’s White Like Me

Many years ago, I dated Tupac. While this statement is untrue, it belies the fact of the power that comes with being recognized, having attention and what is required to keep attention. Much of my early to mid twenties was spent whipping up what I then believed was a serious balls out revolution. I would… Read More »

Nothing Beats a Chip Girl: Why Queens Misuse their Funds and What To Do About It (Part 2)

One of the ways we misuse our coins is by buying shit that we don’t need from people who don’t give a shit about us. I’ve always found it fascinating that we(any oppressed group) spend such an inordinate amount of time attempting to impress the oppressors. We used to call it performing in an effort… Read More »

Ask the Old Guy Speaks to His 20 Something Self

About twenty years ago, I took a huge risk, grew a set of larger-than-normal nuts and decided that I would write and perform characters. Each character in my opinion was bright, witty, interesting and had something to say. Each character was also a personality that would have never been given the opportunity to share their… Read More »

Burn the Manual Presents: What the World Needs Now is More Sanity

Early this morning my husband and I decided that the world has lost its collective marbles. Currently, the world we live in is one where there are no boundaries and constant interruptions are as common as drinking my third cup of coffee by ten a.m. How do you create a sanctuary that is nurturing and… Read More »

Ask the Old Guy Presents: The Process of Making Good Friends

Often times, we find ourselves in the most ridiculous positions. We get very confused and many times overstep boundaries and cause grief, heartache and confusion. How many friendships could have been spectacular but got derailed because we either don’t keep it in our pants or can’t help acting out if it stays in our pants?… Read More »

What to Do When the Poison That is Racism Enters Your Home

Several years ago, I read an essay about the ways that we respond to violence. We typically will have one reaction if we are assaulted by someone we don’t know or have never seen. We respond differently when it is someone we know intimately. Our most significant relationships either foster courage or wither away by… Read More »

Burn the Manual Presents: The Power and Cost of Visibility

When people want to punish those they love nothing works better than rendering them invisible. Nathaniel Branden in his brilliant work on self esteem and its effects on relationships often highlights the need for psychological visibility. With this powerful ingredient, the ways that persons interact are filled with opportunities for growth and unlimited emotional intimacy.… Read More »

Burn the Manual Presents: Designing New Systems for Better Results

For the last year, I have developed a healthy and in some cases obsessive focus on systems- how they work; how they get created; who determines if it is time for an update. Everything is systems based and success and failure is highly determined by an individuals level of self discipline within the system of… Read More »