Warning! The Boogey Man is Real and Dangerous

By | September 29, 2014

When you have invested your heart into something working out a certain way, there is always the possibility that things will not work out or worse yet they will change without your knowledge or consent.

This type of fear is rational and should not cause us to behave in ways that are less than sparkling.

People get very confused when it comes to fear and what needs to be done when we are blindsided by it.

Most of us stop thinking and revert to reptilian responses that include but are not limited to : running away, avoiding the thing that has scared us, making another person wrong (assigning blame), bulldozing over people or in the most extreme cases, immobilizing ourselves (hoping that in freeze mode no one will see us or expect any action).

There are as many ways to deal with fear as there are people in the world.

What if we encouraged people to be afraid and plow into what scares them the most ?

What if we raised our children with this balls-out approach to dealing with what they feel menaces them the most ?

We could have a very different world.

Persons who move from this way of being live very full lives. I am striving to be one of those people.

It is my goal to find what scares me and take it to the mat. Fear is an indicator that change is inevitable and typically forthcoming.

Sometimes when I am feeling bored (which is rare) , I know instinctively that I am not challenging myself. When I am in resistance to taking action, it is usually regarding the fear that I could fail, screw some shit up.

Once I determine the fear is that a) I don’t know what I’m doing and b) I might fail, my next step is usually to metaphorically leap into the pool with arms a flailing.

Most of us do the opposite.

Our stomachs turn so we stop.

We opt for a brownie, a nap, anything at all to prevent moving forward and taking on the beast that stands before us mockingly beckoning us to our undiscovered genius and greatness via the uncomfortability that fear creates.

When I’m comfortable, I’m not moving or growing.

We either progress or regress.

It has taken me several years to figure out which type of fear is begging for attention and just as many years to decide how I would offer attention.

As I whip through my 40′ s and barrel towards my 50’s, I fight daily to make sure that I do not back down and figure out ways to answer my own call to greatness.

I often write about death from the perspective that people aren’t afraid of death (it’s inevitable so why worry) that folks are really afraid to live.

If you had six months to live would you waste time being afraid ?

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