Monthly Archives: August 2011

Don’t read this unless you are Color Blind

Recently, I read an article and watched an accompanying video regarding black/white gay male relationships. I was surprised by the vocal and passionate responses of some of the readers. When I began blogging over a year ago, it was in direct response to an article that was filled with stereotypical responses to black and white… Read More »

Do you feel bad about yourself because you no longer dream ?

“Just because you have a nightmare doesn’t mean stop dreaming” Jill Scott “For us to have self esteem is truly an act of revolution and our revolution is long overdue” Margaret Cho So much of my time has been spent learning to reparent myself. As a black intelligent gay man, I have spent years learning… Read More »

Three Things that keep you from “really ” living

“To be fearless no matter what happens-that is the root of true happiness. To move forward resolutely regardless of what lies in store-that is the spirit of, the resolve that leads to human victory. But if we allow ourselves to be disturbed by petty criticism and slander, or we fear pressure and persecution, we will… Read More »

Why we should Sacrifice our Children

The Summer of 2002 proved hot, steamy and highly productive. I was 34 and thought my life couldn’t get any better. It is amazing the things we either let ourselves believe or create in an effort to hold onto joy and constant good feelings. I was very happily married. Had learned to cook and was… Read More »

How Money affects Gay Male Couples.. WARNING! This posts tells gay men’s dirty secrets

Men loving men has its own challenges and no place is this more evident than the realm of financial responsibility. Like many of our straight male counterparts, we often enter relationships with many severely limited and unproductive views regarding earning and managing money. More often than not , we equate a man’s earnings and or… Read More »