Tag Archives: Black Looks

She Real Cool : My Long Overdue Love Letter to bell hooks

Twenty five years ago this Fall, I had a spiritual breakthrough/mental breakdown. Twenty five years ago, I left another disastrous and doomed from the start relationship. My second one in less than a year. What made this one different is that two wonderful women entered and changed my life (Vievee Francis who had been a… Read More »

Three Secrets to a Successful Relationship Part 2 (Laughter)

Does he still make you laugh ? I haven’t seen him naked lately… Dorothy Zbornak, The Golden Girls More than a year ago, I wrote about my insane need for comedy and laughter and even wrote a formal invitation for the brilliant Margaret Cho to marry me (Cho you missed out; I’m hitched). After writing… Read More »

Do you feel bad about yourself because you no longer dream ?

“Just because you have a nightmare doesn’t mean stop dreaming” Jill Scott “For us to have self esteem is truly an act of revolution and our revolution is long overdue” Margaret Cho So much of my time has been spent learning to reparent myself. As a black intelligent gay man, I have spent years learning… Read More »