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Why Black and White Love Matters

We as gay people must absolutely unite and support one another completely.

We will have no real future or hope for any real obtainable equality if we are not equal and united among ourselves. I try not to judge those who are different than me. And what people who don't tend to interracially date or relate, gay or straight, might actually think about me, my partner, or my life choices is frankly none of my business.


Why Black and White Relationships should matter to everyone

I'm a basic mutt Euro-American male.

I was adopted and raised from infancy in a very loving, inter-cultural family (a European/African-American household in 1970's surburban Los Angeles). As such, loving, supportive and long-lasting interracial relationships are all I have ever really known and seen exemplified in my life.

I have always remained pretty much quiet or generally passive on this very sensitive issue. Fear of carelessly verbalizing my anger or harsh opinions and causing pain to someone forced me into silence.

I have admittedly chosen to surround myself with mostly similar, like-minded and loving beautiful people of all colors.

Whether surrounding myself with such like-minded people was done either consciously or unconsciously really isn't important. I have always found comfort within the warm inclusion of my own people , be it "Zebras" or Swirl Girls or whatever unflattering slangs the cold and equally indifferent outside gay or straight world decides to label me/us.

Within my own national gay, multi-cultural support organization, I find the needed support, unconditional love and understanding that I do not find in the larger gay community as a whole.

I often need to seek quiet refuge with those like me. When an oppressive environment of indifference, hate, unacceptance, social or political injustice or ridicule targets my partner and I, we cling to our supportive allies and one another. As an adult, I refuse to give attention to petty ignorance.

But if I were younger, I would probably accuse myself of cowardice by not confronting such clear demonstrations of ignorance head on.

Would I be who I am today had I been brought up in a same race or same culture household ?


The Myth of Independence

Beyonce sang about it.

People love to talk about it when everything is going well.

It’s a great topic when all is right in your world and you are not attempting to grow with your partner. This huge American obsession with independence is a hoax. There truly is no such thing. Nobody does anything by themselves or for themselves.

If you have spent any time anywhere in the world, you understand that people are a part of life. That nothing gets done without a whole lot of hands in the mix.

From the food we buy to the cars we drive and the houses we live in nothing stands independently of anything else.


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