My new favorite past time is falling in love with men’s potential.
Instead of taking an honest look at what a person presents as their true self, I like the big game of pretend. Basically, I wasn’t very bright and instead of examining my choices regarding my health and well being , I decided to jump into another ill-fated romance.
With out any investigation regarding the new stud’s HIV status , I assumed that no one will shamelessly put any one else at risk.
This type of thing happens every day more than we realize. It doesn’t matter if he seems nice or looks healthy or comes from a good home. What matters is the person’s status.
In my early 20’s , I thought one way about how people conduct their affairs and the belief that no one would deliberately and knowingly place anyone at risk. As this very fearful and troubling decade of my life grew to a close, I had to make some hard core decisions.
What is your HIV status and when is the last time you were tested ?
A smart slut knows how to address the most delicate of subjects, get their swerve on and keep the party going .
I was tested four months ago and here are my results where are yours and would you like to test again together ? Keep in mind the context of your relationship. You can always ask a trick this question and more than likely if you’re in the bushes or an abandoned building or an empty apartment you probably won’t have time to pop by the clinic for a quick test.
Instead go by the smart sluts rule for engaging in a quick roll in the hay : Assume he is and either doesn’t know or his lying and then take serious precautions.
Within the context of a relationship or if you are considering getting seriously involved which could mean just doing the dirty or a full out more committed type of deal here is a bit of advice that always works and is sure to get the heart a pumping :Ask some goddamn questions and if the response is anything other than yea here are my results or yes let’s get tested together, keep it pushing.
What makes us not ask the hard questions, the things that will upset us temporarily and yet will have such far reaching results ? Why did I never bring it up ?
I wanted to assume and pretend.
I didn’t want to upset or offend and most importantly , I wanted to be wanted and loved and did not want to be alone. The smart slut doesn’t go in for all of that pretend nonsense.
Smart sluts state wants and needs clearly and have the foresight to know that his life is far more valuable than ten or fifteen minutes and a lifetime of doctor’s appointments, pricey meds and a life altering disease that has to be constantly and relentlessly managed .