At the beginning of the eighties, a new force of nature entered my home at a party for my dad, his friends and his soon to be second wife. Prince Rogers Nelson was in my home dancing in thigh high boots, an open and freely flapping trench coat and yes, horror of horrors, a g-string.… Read More »
In the two months since his death, Prince has become more popular than ever. I have loved and admired this man and his talent for 30 years. While people worldwide mourn his passing and scramble to find a suitable replacement(impossible), my focus is on honoring the legacy of his music and the bravery and courage… Read More »
Yesterday, my man beat me…Again. In Scrabble. The final portion of creating a successful relationship is the ability to learn from each other daily. Many couples meet and silently agree that neither will change no matter the amount of time spent together or the circumstances that would invite and encourage change. If you want the… Read More »
Does he still make you laugh ? I haven’t seen him naked lately… Dorothy Zbornak, The Golden Girls More than a year ago, I wrote about my insane need for comedy and laughter and even wrote a formal invitation for the brilliant Margaret Cho to marry me (Cho you missed out; I’m hitched). After writing… Read More »
Many gay men wrongly assume that sexual attraction means relationship (material). What is not understood is how to create wonderful relationships. Often times those of us who have created something wonderful go underground. We make it difficult to provide tangible, visible proof of what two men who are in love the right way can create.… Read More »
Most of my young life, I dreamt of a large family with many children screaming, playfully terrorizing one another and basically providing loads of love and energy in a semi large contained space. There were only two problems : I am gay and I could not find another suitable individual who had done the emotional… Read More »
When couples want to improve their relationships, the concept of communication along with fair fighting gets dusted off and revisited. If that fails to create the desired results, we are then told to take on the other’s view point; walk a mile or two in someone else’s loafers. While these things may get the party… Read More »
Lee Daniels, Oprah and their very entertaining movie (The Butler) are having quite a moment. It always amazes me that the very large and in many ways predictable white power structure makes a decision to “anoint” certain people authorities and makes the decision to silence others. As a result of Mr. Daniels and Ms. Winfrey’s… Read More »
When you are homeless nothing else matters. When you don’t have solid footing, no matter your level of intelligence or education, everything is seen through the prism of: I don’t matter because I have no control or input regarding my most basic of necessities. I have been there: living in hotels with lunatic boyfriends, sleeping… Read More »
Ten years ago, I wrote and performed a ballsy, brave, one man show:Knucklebones. My brave instructor, Gretchen Cryer, had given me permission to write about the scary dark places we all possess. Talking about male rape, addiction, abandonment, betrayal, teen homosexual longing for love, hurt and redemption, there was no way to unflinchingly explore and… Read More »