Most of us lie all the time. My friends and acquaintances who were brought up outside of the United States have a very different approach to love, relationships and friendships. It is their approach to communicating and commitment that I model when examining and making attempts to deepen and enrich my interactions with others. While… Read More »
Yesterday, I made a mistake at work and totally forgot to acquire an agreed upon resource for one of my wonderful students. Work relationships, like all relationships that you decide to invest in emotionally, give you the opportunity to address familial and chronic distresses and “not good enoughs”. We can decide to speak up or… Read More »
While every interaction is a type of communication, I am learning to be direct, deliberate and clear when I speak. In my day job, it is not uncommon to speak with forty different people during an eight hour workday. Each person doesn’t hear what I say they screen what I say through their personal history… Read More »
Buffy the Vampire Slayer and its brilliant creator, Joss Whedon, brought a blonde female super hero into our living room on Tuesdays for six incredible seasons. I initially balked at the idea of this young girl saving the world; I decided to take it on as my guilty pleasure once it hit syndication in the… Read More »
As a black man, there are certain things I am supposed to know and not need. As a gay man, there are certain things I should crave. As an artist, my psychosis (according to popular legend) is what makes me create and is the excuse for anything dangerous, self hating or odd that I exhibit.… Read More »
Most black folks who love, respect and need the approval and validation of their families don’t spend much time challenging the wisdom and insight of their elders. When we are depressed, Big Momaisms tell us to get something on our stomachs (let big momma make you a cake); pray to Jesus (turn over all rational… Read More »
Anthony is interviewed on the show “Journeying with Dr. Ni” on BlogTalkRadio.com. Running time: 1 hour 49 minutes. It is always a thrill to meet someone who thinks, acts and challenges themselves and the world. Please have a listen and get inspired to create change in your life and community. Your browser does not support… Read More »
During the course of my first relationship, I would deal with the coming out process, AIDS, and developing relationships wherein my sexuality would not cause anyone problems or upset. I also learned all the lies required to survive: distancing myself from flamboyant queens, switching pronouns when speaking in mixed company, avoiding family gatherings and the… Read More »
Gay men are steeped in shame. There is no gay man in this culture who has not been invited to indulge in a great amount of shame creation and subjugation. No matter our backgrounds, our subculture is one that invites shame. America is both sex obsessed and sex phobic. This makes for disturbing and horribly… Read More »