While I was amazed by all of the hullabaloo surrounding Ms. Dean’s admission of using the “N” word, I am not shocked. When I began reading her biography seven years ago, there was something that was not being addressed. It was clear that she had a very complicated relationship with the black community and those… Read More »
Check out my submission for this great contest : You are a writer; When did you know ? While I started dreaming of being a writer at age 12, I didn’t start referring to myself as one until 30 years later. There were many obvious signs that I was and am meant to be a… Read More »
When I started my stand up comedy career over a decade ago, I often highlighted police brutality and the way things were mishandled during the Amadou Diallo murder case. While I was a good story teller, highlighting the Diallo case created a couple of very predictable responses : groans (which basically meant don’t bring this… Read More »
The one who cares the most wins. When I was eight years old, a Love Boat episode made me cry. While none of my family will address the reasons that I was moved to tears (a young kid was arguing with his parents because of a pending divorce and my parents were divorcing around the… Read More »
Many of us also lie about our greatness and flat out refuse to accept our gifts and the ways we can uniquely contribute to the world. When growing up we are often encouraged to step away from greatness to not risk failure or community shaming by being too much. By drawing attention to ourselves by… Read More »
My new favorite handbook on all things love related is Nathaniel Branden’s What Love Asks of Us. A particularly haunting and troubling point was made regarding the effects that parental lying to children causes. It basically fucks them up. I was thinking of this yesterday when I spoke with my dad regarding some XMAS money… Read More »
When the nuts are full, the mind is empty. (Rinella p. 16) This incredible and powerful quote in Jack Rinella’s Partners in Power tells us that this book is not simply a book on creating leather relationships. This insightful and brutally honest tome allows the reader to both examine the world of leather and self… Read More »